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I hope he listens and takes the test.
I would think if the instructor feels DH should not be driving, he will take the licence right there and then. It may be up to you to take the keys and put them in a safe place.
Are you going to do the driving now? If so, you need to keep the keys with you all the time for a while. You will need to stand by the locked driver's side door and refuse to budge. Take him around to the passenger side with the remote in your hand , unlock the doors and if he bolts for the other side of the car, hit the lock remote and wait . Smile and ask if he's ready to be chauffeured, won't he enjoy looking out at the scenery, and "NO YOU ARE NOT DRIVING......I AM! If YOU don't want to ride, we're NOT GOING!" End of story, over and over again until he understands.
Stay strong and try to understand how he feels. If he's anything like my guy, and it sounds like he is, this is going to be a rough few months for both of you. I kept a vision in my head of kids I know, I didn't want them to meet my husband by accident! I didn't want him running down a mom with a stroller, an old lady with groceries! You get the idea. He's sure "he's okay" as apparently he has been driving that way for quite a while. He knows "it's everyone else", he knows you're "crazy" if you think he "can't drive"!
My heart goes out to you both, I myself dread the day I can't drive. It's such a loss of independence and happens quickly with dementia. Your patient can still do lots of things and will argue this constantly for a while. Bluntly, he's gonna be damn mad! I will be thinking about you, you can stand the onslaught! Don't kid yourself and give in, it just makes it harder the next time! Good luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you, as they are with every single caregiver trying to do this job we never asked for, never trained for, and never ever wanted in any close personal way.
I hope he listens and takes the test.
This is when I'm glad my mom was all, "Sell the car kids, I'm done," when the eye doctor said it wouldn't be a good idea for her to drive anymore. Of course that makes us chauffeur on occasion, but thankfully I've worked it out with her caregivers to tote her around when she needs to. And every once in a while we take a quick trip here and there.
When I hear things like this, as I commented before, I think of the George Weller incident. Google it if you aren't familiar. 86 year old man turning the wrong way, going 60 mph through a Farmer's Market. All he could say when he got out was, "Why didn't you get out of my way."
Thank you for getting him evaluated. He and you deserve the dignity, and above everything else, the safety.
You are so wise to have given up your license. I gave mine up in my late 70s as well. Had not driven much for years, vision was poor in right eye, and felt I was a danger to others.
The DMV test will be done. If your worst fears are borne out then he will likely lose his license. It will then, as JoAnn say, be up to you to disable or sell the car. Sorry you are facing this, but whether your eyes are closed or open in the car, your husband may well kill someone if he is an unsafe driver. My brother had to come to a severe accident for his full diagnosis to come to the fore, and luckily only he was hurt, not others.
No doctor is likely to whip away a license or even report, which is sad. I did experience once a case where an impaired (eyes) senior was asked by the doctor "Are you carrying your license" and replied he was. Doctor asked "May I see it" and my brother's ex handed it to him. He held on to it and said "You cannot drive. I am taking your license". I assume he turned it in to DMV? My brother's ex went to DMV to change license to senior ID, so SOMEthing sure happened. That was in CA. I have never otherwise heard of such an instance.