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Good suggestions already posted.
If his hearing is ok, music sometimes reaches through the dementia damage and elicits a response - movement of the head or fingers, small smile, etc.
It is hard to start to build a life without him, but if you can add one or two weekly activities for yourself with other people around, that will help you have people around you, even if not for the wonderful conversations that you once shared with your spouse. Exercise, book group, etc. Also a support group for family members who are caregivers - and you are still his caregiver.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation.
So, I just sit in her EZ chair, and read. She mostly stares at the ceiling.
She does thank me for coming, so I know she values the visit. I bet your husband does, as well.
I found it easier to visit with my mom during her meal times, I could always prattle on about the food and the people in the dining room and since she needed to be fed it also gave me the assurance she was actually getting one meal a day. Going outside for walks (I walked, she was in a wheelchair) was also a good way to do something for her that she wouldn't have been able to do otherwise, and it was easier to carry on a one way conversation about what I saw.
You treat him like you always did---hopefully that was by being nice. Sounds like you no longer live with him, so you are dealing with 2 losses--his companionship and his mind. No one will say this is easy or fun. You are grieving for the man he was and never will be again. This is very hard.
Try to talk to him as though he is understanding. You don't know what's getting through, so just keep treating him like a human being. Just don't expect responses.