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The attorney may have no idea what the daughter is doing. If he/she doesn't back off (ask for a response to your letter), consider filing a grievance with the State Bar Assn. All family members that support you should sign the letter. Most attorneys I know don't want to get involved in family feuds.
I think the bigger questions are (a) why is this daughter so manipulative and abusive, and (b) why is your father unable to stand up to her? That's not a criticism of him; it sounds as if she's very domineering and intimidates him.
Family needs to join forces and put her in her place, and support your father. Is anyone else standing up for him?
Why does your sister need to call on your 72 year old father for help with her rent, her groceries, her kids' healthcare and driving services? What is going on with her?
Other than that, everything depends on your father's mental capacity. If he is in full possession of his wits, he is a consenting adult and the law assumes that he is capable of making decisions and understanding what the implications are. In that case, sad but true, while your sister's treatment of him is on the face of it disgusting, it is not illegal.
When you say "others" are starting to notice as well, who are these others? Is any of them someone who might have some influence over your sister? Especially in close relationships, the way you treat a person tends to become a habit, and that habit tends to become more ingrained over time, for good or ill. It could be that a timely wake-up call, a "what do you think you're doing?", given to your sister by someone she respects could stop this getting totally out of hand.
Is your sister married? Is there anything about her circumstances that would explain why she's behaving in this appalling way?