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Since the son is being investigated for the money issues, I would think Social Services adult protective section could intervene. It's awful that abuse as seemingly obvious as this has to be proven, since financial abuse has been reported and is being investigated. One would think that is enough.
I'd contact an Elder Law attorney in her area (you could try this Web site http://www.naela.org/ or check her location's phone book (most libraries can help with that - give your public library a call).
You are wonderful to be concerned about this horrible situation. Between Social Services and an elder law attorney, you hopefully will get some help.
Please check back in and let us know how you are doing.
Carol
You say your aunt is still living at the private facility? Can you talk to her directly and express your concerns about her safety, or talk to someone at the facility to make them aware of what's going on? Maybe someone there can convince her not to move in with her son.
If she does move in with her son, maybe you could get another relative or friend of hers in the area to go by and check on her frequently.
Other than making sure the local elder abuse authorities are aware of the son's financial abuse of her, there is not a lot you can do legally as long as your aunt is considered of sound mind and gives her son all the power.
The invesigators know what is going on and have been very helpful but unless she speaks up, they can't prosacute when the time comes.
Yes the lady that runs the home she is in knows what is going on but she is like us, we just have to wait until he either does not provide care or she gets injured.
I don't see how he can look in the mirror, 56 years old and still stealing from his mother. I can not fathom that.
He knows she doesn't have much longer, maybe a few years?, and wants her $3,500.00 a month for as long as he can get it.
He took her out for a few hours the other day, fed her a piece of pie for a meal, didn't give her her meds but did manage to find a Xanax to dope her out on.
Unfortunately we have no other friends or family anywhere near Delaware. I would fly up there but have zero funds to do that.
I want to call my cousin and tell him to watch his back because we will be watching it too. I am so furious I don't even know where to begin talking to him.
When he comes over to see my aunt, they go in her room for 2 hours and I know he is threatening her and scaring her into moving in with him.
I don't know how to help other than call the police or protective services after she moves and we can't reach her....he took her cell phone and has not paid the bill on it.
In this country, what you say isn't as important as what you can prove. Keep advocating for her and see if this "lady" who runs the house puts it down in black and white in complete sentences. Also, find out exactly whom the so-called investigators are and insist they make random house visits. It's going to be hell, but well worth it.
-- ED
Go to attorneygeneral.delaware.gov to see if you can revoke your cousin's POA or at least file a complaint.
AgingCare Staff:
This situation requires a personal touch. What can you do?
Another nurse was going to come out and do another evaluation today.
So if you are a praying person, please pray for all of us and if you aren't, please keep your fingers crossed.
Thank you for your support, it means a lot to me!
Please help me with one thing, the state sent a nurse out a couple of weeks ago and said she did not qualify for hospice.
My cousin had someone from Seasons Hospice (a private company) come out and evaluate her yesterday and said she does qualify for hospice.
She has Parkinson's but has not been told she is in the final months of her life.
Can someone explain hospice to me?
Hospice is usually for those with only days or at most a couple of weeks to live. They provide home visits, pain medications if needed, bathing, counseling, etc. You had expressed earlier that your aunt had Parkinson's but no other problems and possibly had a few years left to live.
One thing I'm not understanding is that the state issued an order 3 days ago that your cousin could not be alone with his mother, then apparently was allowed to take her from the home 2 days later. Wouldn't this go against the state's order that he could not be alone with her?
His insistence on hospice for her sounds very ominous. The whole thing stinks. I would be tempted to call Seasons Hospice to ask why they think she is ready for hospice when the state said she wasn't; ask them if they think she is dying.
You had mentioned earlier you didn't have the funds to fly out to check on her, so paying for an elder care lawyer probably would be too expensive, too. You could check to see if there are any pro bono legal advice organizations in your area or your aunt's area that could give you counsel for no cost.
I'd also keep hounding the state and ask the same question I posed earlier -- if he is under an order not to be alone with his mother, why was he allowed to take her out of the facility? And tell them about the hospice situation too -- that she was not "dying" when she left the nursing home, according to the state, but he has since had a private evaluation & qualified.
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