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I certainly understand your frustration about the baths. It
is a chore! Often times they are too tired. Everything seemed to rotate around their schedule. Some of it simply can’t be helped if they have a sleepless night. I was exhausted the too. Still, my mom managed to bathe weekly.
I dealt with the falls too. They were terrifying.
Do you have any other help caring for her? Have you contacted Council on Aging? There is a wait list and I only had them a short while before mom left. They only came every other week for four hour shifts. They did bathe mom and prepare a light meal for her, plus tidy up her room.
I tend to agree with Isthisreallyreal believing that your mom may need more care than you can do. You might want to look into assisted living facilities or nursing homes.
Best wishes for you and mom.
But meanwhile, fill a large plastic bowl with warm water and a squeeze of shower gel, and take it to your mother's bedroom (if that's where she dresses) along with several warm towels. Help her to have a thorough wash. If being clean is important to her, this beginning should encourage her to want to bathe and you can take baby steps towards getting her back to normal. Is her bathroom safe for her to use?
"Help arrived"? What sort of help? Why was she not taken to ER? Or was she?
When you say shes pissy, do you mean she smells of urine? I'd take her to the doc exactly how she is. It will let her/him understand better what kind of home care needs to be ordered.
For starts, she needs a bath aide who will be very persuasive about showers and how to do them safely. Doc will script you a shower chair which Medicare should pay for.
Great ideas here.
I've not tried any yet, but plan to try these rinse free cloths and bathing, shampoo products.
At the bottom of this page Click 'Senior Care Products.' You'll see bathing help with rinse free cloths (which says can warm up, too), and other products.
If you Google rinse free cleansing for elderly, many pop up. Maybe you can find in a store near you, and these may help.
Dry shampoo does wonders for the hair between showers. Give her a wet washcloth to freshen up. Seven days isn’t that long to go without a shower for an elderly person. Good luck!
Does she have a bath chair or bench?
Does she have to step into a bath tub to shower or is it a walk in shower?
Even a walk in shower has a small lip that you have to step over so watch that as well.
A bench or chair with a back can provide support and make her feel more comfortable.
If she still will not shower or bathe at all for you you can hire someone to help out and they do it all the time and are very good at convincing someone to shower. (You might even want to tell her a little "fib" and say that the "Bath Aid" was ordered by her doctor to check to see how she is healing and make sure there are no bruises from her fall. Quite often people will do things the "doctor says you have to do" that they will not do otherwise)
If she doesn't want to bathe there isn't much to do about it.
Last but not least-not to make light either, but 7 days isn't that long. She will do it at her own time. Drop the expectation of the rarely callers-they are NO help in this matter.
Good luck and take care. Don't hurt yourself trying to 'help' your Mom, protect your back!
Sounds like it is time for some changes to keep your mum safe.
I agree she should go to ER. She may have had a slight stroke.
Now is the time to push for a life alert device that calls for help and detects falls.
Oh my, this could have been tragic. I am happy for both of you that it wasn't, but it is a wake up call for change.