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and is truly still independent, then this is an critical safety issue and she may need to either move to IL or AL where her meals are taken care of &/or the kitchen situation is more limited and safer for her. Or have a sitter come in daily to monitor her in her home.
If she is living with you, then the watchful eye like bright said is the way to go if you have the time and family &/or a sitter to always be there to be a "spotter" when she's doing things.
My mom lived alone till her early 90's and then I basically had to force her to move to IL. It wasn't pretty but had to be done for her own safety and security. She seemed very capable and cognizant on the surface but there were alot of early dementia related problems going on. She is now 95 and in LTC with Lewy Body Dementia, early level 6.
With her the kitchen issues were all about safety - she would leave the gas on, she couldn't smell it; she would boil water to wash dishes and boil it down to an empty pan and not see that it was empty and super hot, then go to grab it or better yet put water into it in a rush and it would spit up and burn her. She had a dishwasher and electric kettle but wouldn't use it - looking back I realize it was that she couldn't mentally go thru the steps needed to use those appliances. But she was clever in that when she knew we were visiting she would only do cold food or use paper plates and we would go out to eat.
After being there for a summer week, it was apparent she needed to move. She did IL for 3 years - the kitchen was minimal and electric. The IL did lunch and dinner and Sunday brunch - so there was always a good "hot" meal and leftovers. (It's amazing to me just how much they can pack into the seats of those Hugo's.) Every situtation and family is different but things are not going to get better as they age. Good luck.
I'm reminded to try to come up with more table tasks, though.
It is very scary for you, a hot stove. Keep her busy at the table preparing food and let her get tired out that way.
I'm the same way with my mother,but to keep from hurting her feelings and allow her to feel independent,I will let her do some light cooking and just keep a watchful eye.She will sometimes ask me for help and let me know when she can't do any more.
I can only imagine what it must be like to go from being an independent person to having someone do everything for you,it can't be easy.