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Will there be a time that I can relax? As so many others have expressed on this site, respite care time is absolutely a must. In the last 4 months we have been able to guilt relatives into giving us a respite day just twice. On both of those days my wife & I had guilt feelings before we got to the end of the driveway as we left our house. Once we got away from the house we had to remind ourselves that this was our time to relax, to unwind. It was sort of like the feeling we got years ago the first time we left our little baby girl with a baby sitter while we went out to supper.
I think parents never totally get over worrying about their children. As caregivers we never get over worrying about our loved ones. I fully well expect guilt feelings even after my mother passes away. I'm sure I will wonder if there was anything I could have done to make her last years more comfortable. Initially I had those same feelings when my dad passed away, but I came to realize that because of the sacrifices I made in his last years I will never feel the regret that some of my siblings have now.
Do I enjoy cleaning the bathroom toilet, floor, walls, etc. after an episode of diarrhea goes terribly bad? Of course not, but I also know that there will be a time that I wish it needed to be done again. I know that there will be a time that I wish I could see the child-like smile that I get to see every morning when I wake my mother to tell her that breakfast is ready. There will be a time that I will miss the bad as well as the good times.
There will also be a time that I will be happy .... happy in the knowledge that my wife & I did everything we could to help our parents through this difficult phase of their lives.
I have faith that God has a special blessing for caregivers.
"...whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
This is a difficult journey, but it is surely possible to make it and be glad that we did all we could for our parents! Let go of your guilt; don't expect too much from yourself.
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