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My mom was on hospice before she died. She lived to be 95. She suffered with Parkinson’s disease and dementia. She would gladly have died sooner.
Both of my parents were ready to die. When a person has no quality of life left, it becomes torturous for them to continue living.
I am so sorry that you are going through this and your feelings are completely understandable.
Wishing you and your father peace as you continue onward in this difficult journey.
VERY few services will come with current Hospice which is deteriorating rapidly. It is basically down to three baths a week and one RN visit, with, in my opinion recently, a fairly incompent social worker on the side. Skilled Nursing, if given because there is a need for skilled care (wound care and etc) will let you know if Hospice can be incorporated. You are correct that not everyone dies in hospice, but mostly they now have on offer a dropper bottle of morphine and little else, and they assume that you understand that the end of life is now the goal, not really healing. I would speak with the doctor; perfect one to answer your question. I am sorry that there are likely GREAT hospice organizations still out; my recent experience through a dying friend was abysmal. See Lealonnie's post in Discussions about hospice and read the article.
I sure wish you the best.
It can not do any harm in calling a Hospice of your choice and asking for them to evaluate your dad. The worst thing is he does not qualify AT THIS TIME and they may suggest Palliative Care. This will get the team in an they can monitor him and when he does qualify the transition from Palliative to Hospice will be fast and seamless. the good thing is you will have extra sets of eyes on him watching for any problems.
You are right about the 6 months. As long as there is a "continued, documented decline" a person can remain on Hospice.
Make the call, you have nothing to lose.
My mother’s nurse was the first one to recommend hospice care. She said that she felt that it was a bad idea to wait until the person is at death’s door before starting on hospice care.
No one can tell you when precisely someone will die. Nurses will update you on the condition of your father.
Best wishes to you and your dad.
It sounds like your dad is suffering from 'failure to thrive' which is common when an elder gets to a certain age or after Covid or a long illness of some kind. They just wear out, I guess, and their bodies start shutting down.
I've had hospice care for both of my parents while they were living in Assisted Living and found their extra services to be of great value. They were given hospital beds, mom a different wheelchair she didn't fall out of, incontinence briefs, supplies, etc, all at no cost (but with Medicaid, dad isn't paying for these supplies anyway). But dad will also get a nurse to visit him, CNAs to help bathe him, a social worker and chaplain to visit, and services of that nature. It's an extra set of eyes on him that's helpful, for most people.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation.
Hospice will evaluate Dad and determine if he fits the criteria. If he is excepted they evaluate every six months. It could not hurt to have a second pair of hands. Just be aware, Hospice does not pay for his room and board. They only pay for supplies, durable equipment, prescriptions Nurse and Aide. Make sure when he is admitted you and maybe someone else is there with you. We all tend to miss something being said so nice to have a second pair of ears. Ask questions. Once admitted the Hospice nurse should be available 24/7 by phone.
Hospice is comfort care, not there to save Dad. Yes, some people do improve on Hospice. One members husband lasted 22 months on Hospice.