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But hoping doesn't make it so. Coy died of dementia, although the autopsy indicated he would have died of heart problems very soon in any case. His last weeks (5 of them on hospice) were calm and gentle. He slept more and more. When he was awake he was mostly lucid -- more so than he had been. He ate some days, if he wanted to. He carried on meaningful conversations. He died in our bedroom, holding my hand.
In other words, in Coy's case it was a race between heart problems and the breathing/swallowing problems of dementia. In hindsight, I'm kind of glad the dementia took him. It was peaceful with no massive pain. And I am very, very glad he was on hospice.
In that sense it is for "end" stage conditions.
No one can predict accurately when someone is going to die. So sometimes hospice patients live longer than 6 months and their enrollment is renewed. Sometimes they even improve and are discharged from the program. (That happened to my mother.)
But usually hospice patients do, indeed, die. Will the hospice care be in your home? They will see to it that Mother has any equipment she needs to be comfortable, such as a hospital bed and a bedside commode. They will provide a kit of drugs for you to administer as needed. They will explain what each is for and how to use it. They will give you a 24-hour phone number to call at any time. For example, if you are not certain about giving one of the meds you can call them.
The meds are intended to keep Mother out of pain and out of anxiety.
A nurse will visit, probably a couple times a week, and check vitals, check for bed sores, solve problems, and generally be encouraging. Between visits you are welcome to use that 24-hour phone number.
A chaplain and a social worker are also available to you and to your mother.
Since your mother is asking to die, she would probably welcome the end-of-life care hospice provides. They do not cause death or hasten death. Death is going to happen when it will happen, from Mother's diseases. But they can ensure Mother's comfort during this process and also help you and your family understand what is going on, so you can perhaps accept it more gracefully.
Once hospice starts there are no more attempts at a "cure," no ER visits, no need to go to a clinic or doctor's office. If there is an uncomfortable symptom, the nurse will handle it. For example, my husband was extremely uncomfortable, the nurse thought he needed a catheter, she went out to her car and brought in a sterile kit and applied it, much to my husband's great relief. So I don't mean problems aren't solved -- just that you won't have to take Mother to an ER to get them solved.
I would like hospice care for myself when I am in the end stage of my life.