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I've just checked and found several sources of Vietnamese populations near Houston, Texas:
https://www.bing.com/search?q=Vietnaese+communities+near+Houston%2C+Texas&form=IENTHT&pc=EUPP_DCJB&mkt=en-us&httpsmsn=1&msnews=1&rec_search=1&refig=e39092474a834bbe8ad5775d25023107&sp=-1&pq=vietnaese+communities+near+houston%2C+texa&sc=1-40&qs=n&sk=&cvid=e39092474a834bbe8ad5775d25023107
Sometimes these long URLs don't work well, so try "Vietnamese communities near Houston, Texas". These are some cited sources (I got confused copying them and going back and forth, but they're all Vietnamese American facilities).
There are several possible sources of assistance:
Vietnamese American Community Center
9530 Antoine Dr, Houston, TX 77086
(713) 320-7555
Vietnamese American Community Services
2120 Sul Ross St, Houston, TX 77098
Phone: (713) 527-9000
Vietnamese Civic Center
Civic Center
11360 Bellaire Blvd 900, Houston ·
Phone: (281) 498-8438
Vietnamese American Chamber (of Commerce??)
9750 Bellaire Blvd, Houston, TX 77036
Phone: (832) 409-1233
If I remember correctly, there are various sects within Buddhism, and w/o knowing any more, I'm not sure how to target search for a Buddhist temple in or around Houston, so I just searched on Buddhist temples near Houston. These are the hits I got:
https://www.bing.com/search?q=Buddhist%20temples%20near%20Houston%2C%20Texas&qs=n&form=QBRE&sp=-1&pq=buddhist%20temples%20near%20houston%2C%20texa&sc=2-35&sk=&cvid=E3F3ACA515DF4E5ABC837E3919BB7023
The map on the hit page shows 5 temples in the Houston area.
Perhaps someone in your family knows the specific sect to contact?
I'm sorry for your family and the trials you're facing, but hope that you find someone in your father's faith who can comfort and console him.
The problem is that many languages are not monolithic. "Vietnamese" is a convenience that encompasses many "dialects" which are in reality separate languages that are not very mutually intelligible. The older the person is the more likely they are speaking something unintelligible from what has become standardized. Until very recently every village or town from Asia to Europe to Africa spoke their own language.
He is Buddhist and I think having a Vietnamese Buddhist monk come to talk to him would help him be at peace in coming to terms with death. IF THIS IS WHAT COMES TO MIND, THEN DO THIS... IT WILL BE GOOD FOR HIM.. DO NOT QUESTION THIS...It will be good for you too.
My parent's priest came to us in his street clothing.. nothing fancy or showy... It was good.
TAlk about happy times, his past, what he liked as a child, what you appreciate in him, laugh, music, dance...food.. give him what he likes... make him happy.. do not dwell on his condition so much.. he knows.
Palliatvie care/hospice is for the both of you, you do not need to get him into a car/taxi... nurses and docs come to him...yo do not need to physically take him... that is a comfort knowing that.. They have a 24 hour call number usually, and leave the palliatvie care messages for your nurses/doc... IT IS OKAY..DO THIS FOR YOU, HIM, AND YOR FAMILY...There is no harm in this whatsoever.
But. Your father is still cognitive. How he approaches this stage of his life is for him to decide. I sympathise with your wishing him to find peace of mind and come to terms with his situation, but if he wants to keep fighting that is his right.
If the doctors are suggesting palliative care but because of language barriers they're only suggesting it to you and not to your father, they need to get themselves a specialist translator and stop expecting you to handle this extremely difficult and technical conversation. Grrrr!
Is the rest of the family being supportive? How are you all doing?
Hospice has Chaplains but I am sure that they could also find, if they do not happen to have one on staff a Buddhist monk.
Hospice is paid through Medicare, Medicaid and other insurance so you do not have to "pay" them it is billed just like any other medical service.
Either the hospital will serve as his "Hospice home" or they may transfer him to a Hospice facility or even to his home if that is his wish and possible. Any place he will be kept comfortable.
You might even want to contact a professor at a nearby university that teaches a course on world religions to explain the differences to you if they don’t mind speaking to you. Then you could select the sect of Buddhism that would be most suitable for your father.
I wish the very best for your family during this difficult situation.
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