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Since Step-Dad has the POA sometimes you must have to back off for awhile.
Dementia is a funny thing. Mom would go on and on about being cold like she was in a brain loop but wearing a sweater would "hurt" her. I would take the fact that she walked on her own with the walker as a good thing. Also, the fact that the doctor did not press for xrays is probably a positive thing.
The fact that you have a backup residence in mind is good.
Sometimes where you are at is where you are at.
Many of us here in the forum had to wait for a medical emergency where 911 was called and the parent hospitalized before we could get the ball rolling for senior living. Sure enough, when my Mom was 98 she had head trauma due to a fall. Both my parents still lived in a house which had a lot of stairs. Mom went from the hospital to rehab.... from rehab into skilled nursing and that is where she remained.
As hard as it is, you will need to sit and wait for that call.
I would offer support in looking in on Mom without enabling the poor decision of their not getting care.
To be honest (and perhaps this comes of being now 82 with an 84 y/o partner) your mother chose your stepfather as husband and as POA. Whether in choosing otherwise (let us assume you, yourself) she would now be "safely" "in care" and live a few years longer? Perhaps. But in attempting a guardianship fight with her hubby you would almost certainly:
A) lose
B) invest money needlessly
C) if you won be in for a world of woe with an uncooperative mom and hubby
D) add little to your mom's life. Safety issues such as falls, etc. will continue
I cannot see the stress of this being worth it for any reason.
I do like that you reached out to step family. I suggest you all work out a check in schedule and keep in touch with one another.
I hope as a new member you will fill in your profile for us, which will help if you plan to stay on the site at all. I certainly do wish you all the best.