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Unless you are with her while she's navigating the town safely, you have no idea if it's safely or not. I knew an elderly man whose sister talked with him every week and had no idea he had dementia. They lived in different states. One day he went out to buy a new car, stopped at a restaurant on the way home to eat, then couldn't figure out what car in the parking lot was his. He walked home - several miles on heavily traveled highways - and arrived at his neighborhood only to be confused about where he lived. He knocked on a door, which belonged to a policeman who knew him. The guy escorted him home and found the inside of the house in total disarray. Vents pulled out of walls and ceilings, no toilet working, appliances piled in the courtyard, holes in the walls.
Yet everyone who knew him thought he was fine.
The way to help your person is to realize it's not one issue. It never is. Get her help before she hurts herself or someone else.
Someone driving with dementia is NO different than someone driving while drunk or high on drugs.
Sadly this woman is no longer independent and must not be going out and about by herself anymore, and you are definitely in denial about this women's condition, which isn't helping anyone especially her and all the innocent drivers on the road.
Time to educate yourself better on this horrible disease of dementia, so you will be more aware of not only what is going on now, but also what is to come, as this disease only gets worse never better.
For short term suggestions you might custom make a key chain with her apartment number. Or put a photo on her door that she would recognize
We put a picture of my grandson on Moms door at the AL to help her find her room.
Although you think she does not need full time accompaniment right now and it's only this one issue she's forgetful of, how do you know that if you're not accompanying her about town full time??? The time is NOW to stop allowing her to go out alone. Most people wait far too long until they take action on behalf of a dementia patient....until a crisis happens and they get lost or seriously injured, unfortunately.
Actually, it's probably the only issue you're seeing since you're not with her the rest of the day and night. Just because she happens to make it back home alive and well doesn't mean her adverntures on the town were without incident.
It's not a problem until it is. Someone with dementia/memory impairment is not very able to learn and retain new things (such as adding a decoration to her door which wasn't previously there), no matter how simple. If she doesn't recognize her own apartment number, she's not going to recognize anything else.
Honestly if she doesn't recognize where she lives, I'm not sure how she is navigating the town "safely"? Eventually she won't. Who is her PoA or guardian? Do they know she's starting to have show more impairment? Why wait for a disaster? If I were this woman's child I'd want to know so I could keep her safe. Which comes first? The illusion of her independence or her safety and wellbeing?
I had a friend whose brother had dementia and was having a lot of similar issues who suddenly disappeared, vulnerable, in the depths of a large nearly city. It took the police, posters and a whole huge search to find him.l
If you are speaking of someone in an ALF facility where there are halls with similar doors almost always the answer is a special decorations, welcome mat or wreath that the elder can easily recognize, that is meaningful to him or her.