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My MIL has lived with us for 10 years. She has suffered from vascular dementia for the past 2+ years. She is 94. There are times when we are so weary, not from the work involved, because she’s actually pretty easy to care for still, but from the drudgery. She’s weak and unstable enough that she can’t be left alone. We found the expense of hiring someone to stay with her on Sunday we’ll worth it in order to have fellowship and find encouragement. It may seem like we have it easy, since my husband and I are retired and share the work, but there is a mental and emotional component to her care that becomes very trying at times due to the history of family dynamics. I have to continually place my trust in God to work out the details and trust Him with the results.
Do you have a support system in place for YOU? Are there others who can come alongside you and help brainstorm solutions? Don’t be too proud to ask for help. Most important of all, ask God what He’s trying to teach you through all of this.
Be assured, dear one, that God has not forgotten you. He loves you and cares about every single thing you’re going through. Praying for strength, peace, and wisdom for you during this time.
As Ecclesiastes 9:11 tells us that time and chance happens to all of us. I am so sorry you lost your beloved sister, please don't blame God, when the imperfections of the flesh overwhelm us and we die, it isn't God, it is this imperfect world we live in and our own imperfect bodies. God provided the means to everlasting life through the resurrection. Please don't turn against God, these things are not his fault.
Try to recognize the small miracles and stay strong in your faith cause when this is all over you will look back and understand. God does love you and if you don't turn your back on him (and even if you do) he will be faithful.
Being the spouse means I am NOT eligible for $$ but as you're the daughter, you should be eligible for $$ for taking care of your mother. I'm sorry, I really have no idea who you need to call - start with Medicaid and keep asking questions. You might even find an answer here at AgingCare. It isn't a tremendous amount of money but I believe it is $1500+ monthly - twice my social security. I wish we spouses were eligible.
Since you're still working, I can understand your feelings of abandonment. I'm sure I would feel the same in your position. Thankfully, even with my dad, I was already "retired" so I was able to cope.
Keep praying honey, even if not the answer you hope for. And if a crazy idea pops into your head - this could be God trying to tell you what to do - follow through. I give God a problem and then come online and "low & behold" I find an answer.
"I asked for Strength ... and God gave me Difficulties to make me Strong.
I asked for Wisdom... and God gave me Problems to Solve.
I asked for Courage .... and God gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love... and God gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favors...and God gave me Opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted...
I received everything I needed...
Trust in God "
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