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And even then, he may not realize what's happening. I remember when a doctor said that my mother had "Dementia, Alzheimer's type", that was back in the early 2000s. I wasn't knowledgeable about it, didn't really have any idea what to do until we saw some progression. It was my psych nurse sister who clued me in on how to address some of Mom's confusion issues.
So, he may just not have any idea what to do, poor fella.
I've also noticed more recently that families who are experiencing a member with dementia don't have the level of knowledge of people here.
Spouses are often in denial when it comes to dementia in the other spouse.
Oh, yes, of course a spouse of someone who has dementia can be in danger. Sometimes it is danger of physical abuse, But danger arising out of poor decisions can be very real, too.
Let's take these one by one. Supplements from the internet. Hmm. A lot of people swear by them. I don't agree with her decision, but I don't see it as particularly dangerous. Are you worried about it being a waste of money?
Rearranging his pill box. Oh-oh. Are all the correct pills still in it? Is FIL apt to be confused by the new arrangement? How well does he recognize his own medications? Would he notice if some are missing or there are duplicates?
Orange juice when his blood sugar is high? OMG. Definitely could be dangerous. Does FIL drink it? How well does he understand managing his diabetes? Has his wife always taken care of this? That was acceptable when she was well. It definitely isn't acceptable now!
What do you mean by canning done incorrectly? Were you there while she was doing it? I would definitely get rid of all the incorrectly canned foods. No one should eat it. Actually, I would probably call our home extension agency and ask for a professional opinion, then throw out whatever they say!
She MUST be stopped from driving! No license? Can you imagine the liability if she is in even a minor accident? More importantly, how would any of you live with it if her poor judgment results in serious injury or death?
What kind of charges does she make that are inappropriate?
If FIL won't go along with you, you have a tough situation on your hands. If he won't say no himself but doesn't mind if you do it will be easier. Do they live together, in their own home?
A person with dementia cannot live alone safely. She is not living alone, but she might as well be for all the supervision her husband is able/willing to give her. I think they need some in-home help, for FIL's sake as well as hers.
Don't allow her access to medications. (I bought a locking cosmetic case for pills when my husband had dementia.)
Disable or remove the car.
Tell them the jar lids have been recalled. They are defective and everyone is advised to discard the contents. (Or any story she might accept.)
If she is not using good judgment about purchases, online or in stores, perhaps someone should accompany her shopping. Maybe the credit card needs to be closed.
How does your husband feel about these things? Can he reason with his dad?
I think her behavior confirms the diagnosis. As long as the doctor did appropriate tests to rule out other causes (such as a vitamin deficiency) then extensive cognitive testing isn't necessary to diagnose ALZ.
Getting a needs assessment for her would probably be more useful than further testing.
I tried my best to avoid hurting my husband's feelings, but I certainly did not allow him to drive, endangering others. I did not allow him to manage his own medications (let aone mine!) We opened a separate checking account for him, with a low balance, and we took him off the household account.
Poor Wife. She is a sick woman. Not her fault! No blame intended. But she must be protected from herself.