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Good Luck
1. This is not an acceptable situation for either your gma or you or other family members living in your home.
2. She needs a psychiatric work-up/diagnosis; this sounds like dementia not results of a stroke.
3. Sleep medication? Why are you letting this incapacitated clearly confused person running your household?
4. Get a POA and start looking at alternative places for her to live - call and make appointments TODAY!
There's a lot to do while you're struggling just to make it through the day, so make a list and check things off as you do them, so you can see that positive movement is happening! (The more detailed the list, the more you can check off - which may give you the satisfaction/energy to keep going!)
Best wishes and keep us posted!
Once the medical problem is identified there may be medicines that can help, and caregiver training that can minimize the triggers of such behaviors.
But int he final analysis, no matter what the cause, it is not acceptable for abuse and violence to be putting others in harm's way. It is not acceptable to be disturbing the neighbors. It is not acceptable to have false accusations against caregivers. As it is, this situation is NOT acceptable. Possibly it can be brought into an acceptable range with proper diagnosis and treatment.
If not, then some other arrangement must be made. That might be Memory Care or Nursing Home. It is possible that Assisted Living might be appropriate, but not if she is a threat to the safety of others.
Keep in touch here. You are in a very challenging situation. We all want to here how it is going for you.
There's something else that you could consider. It may be that she could visit a geriatric psychiatrist (perhaps as an inpatient) and work with medications to help stabilize her mood. If you think this is a good idea, ask your gma's doctor what he/she thinks about it.
I hope that you can find some way to improve your lives over what you're going through right now. Please let us know what is going on with you. Big hugs coming your way. Hope you get a good night's sleep tonight.