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I'd feel a whole lot better if my mother were in long term care with me in another state than trying to figure out crises, emergencies, caregivers not showing up IF she hires them, home repairs, grocery shopping/prepping food, transportation, getting to doctors, getting meds, etc. It's not reasonable to expect her to manage all this herself, or for part time aides to either. Unless she has the funds to pay for 24/7 in home care, she's better off in managed care.
Get all the opinions you'd like, but common sense dictates an elder of advanced age, and with a history of cancer, surgeries with long recoveries, etc, needs a LOT of help with a LOT of things.
Best of luck to you.
Would she go for an Assisted Living? Her house could be sold to help pay for the AL. They would provide transportation.
She is in care and that is the easiest and safest place to get someone from care to long term care.
If she goes home this is a risk for her, and will prolong the inevitable.
At the end of life it is no longer about "what will make us happy". I am 81. At the end of life it is about loss upon loss upon loss. It is difficult to witness but it is the cycle of life.
Your decisions, yours and your mothers, are your own, but if they tell you this is unsafe I would encourage you, since you are not there to SEE things daily, to believe them.
Do know you can be included in discharge and care plan conferences and SHOULD be; I was for my brother. There the PT and OT and MD and Social Worker will all tell you what they are seeing. This may help you. So would a visit.
No one will send your mom to another rehab for another eval. These things are covered by Medicare in the way they are covered.
I would make a visit if you remain so uncertain in your own mind.
Ask for home health care in her home if needed. The OT and PT in a home setting can be helpful alongside rehab in a facility.
Mom’s OT rearranged furniture to accommodate her needs for her. PT made sure that her walker was adjusted correctly and helped in numerous other ways.