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It seems to me that any terms and conditions should have the best interests of people with PD and their caregivers heart..?
Are you saying that people here are too stupid to look at the information I have provided and make up their own minds?
Ask yourself this: Why has this guy considered respected, valued and trustworthy on a forum populated by a lot of the best minds in the field of cutting edge research?
A forum where 1000s of people have bought and taken cutting edge medications, peptides and plant extracts from the same lab he plans to use, with positive effects...
Ban me, or not... I'm not coming back and neither should anyone else if this site is more interested in keeping its customers than seeing them well.
"It sounds too good to be true. So it isn't ! " said the caveman, with his spear, to the 1st person with a bow and arrow...
I do not want to deal with the same panic you have and will not have to IMHO.
Please see my post in:
"How do you handle the mental changes of Parkinson's disease?"
and read the links to Georgetown Varsity's study.
Second, read what you wrote, this is killing you, so stop trying to be superwoman. If the Benadryl does not work, get him to Memory Care.
Third, get your son to a group home where he can live with peers and have a much better social life. They will take his SS check as full payment and give him a generous personal needs allowance and transport him to a day program. I have a sister in a group home and she loves it.
You already know what you've got to do: take control...learn to say no...stand up for yourself and, most important of all, feel okay about doing so and shed the guilt.
If you can't do that, you need counseling. You are allowing a very sick man to completely control you. It's time to turn the tables. You simply CANNOT caretake from the "he's a tyrant" mindset and stay healthy -- physically or mentally. You WILL break.
Thanks!
I know there is no way to change her, so I have to protect myself. Mostly this has to do with not jumping because she says to. I find myself saying "We don't need to do that" or "I'll do that later" when she makes demands. It can make her mad, but better her mad than me crazy.
He's self destructive in that he refuses to care for himself yet apparently demands that you provide instant attention.
If you're designated as proxy in a Living Will or Advanced Directive, check the terms and conditions to see if you can step in and make decisions for him. If so, bring hospice back whether your father likes it or not. Unfortunately, though, he will probably be rude and uncooperative, so that presents another problem in that not only will he not take care of himself, he won't allow someone other than you to do that either.
The next time he has aspiration pneumonia, and given the situation it's only a matter of time, talk privately with one of the treating doctors and the discharge planner to arrange for him to be placed in a facility, which probably would be hospice if it's already available.
Even eliminating the hostile attitude, a wheelchair bound person is too much for one person to handle, and it's obviously going to affect your own health and possibly your son's as well.
It's time to take a stand; you've already made sacrifices trying to work out an impossible situation, your father won't cooperate, you can't perform to the standards you'd like because of that, so it's also time for you to be relieved of this responsibility before you become more ill yourself.
I think the difficulyt in these situations is always the emotional attachment, which can become like quicksand and trap caregivers who slowly sink further into its deadly grips. These caregiving situations always involve 2 people - the caregiver and the recipient, and in my opinion it's absolutely mandatory that some attempt to balance each person's needs be made so that the situation doesn't deteriorate into one resembling some kind of servitude.
An imbalance of control also seems to be present, with the elder assuming more and more of the control while the caregiver sinks deeper into despair and poor health.
Keep telling yourself what I've written, and remind yourself that you've given it your best shot but your father REFUSES to cooperate and allow you to help him. If he's self destructive, don't let him take you down with him.