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When we try to "arrange" simple tasks as a diversion - things that need to be done before he can go - sometimes cleaning up and changing his clothes does the trick and he decides to nap instead and puts off his trip temporarily. But by the next day, he's back at it and we start the whole process over again. We do agree that this is harmless and we try to chuckle at the repetitiveness of it all as we search for new and different ways to keep him busy and interested in enjoying that which is right here at his "home" away from his "home".
The other night she got up at 3am asking where her husband was (he passed away over a year ago). I said, "Remember when he went to the car races with his sons every year?" I didn't need to go further with that, she was relieved that he was with his sons and that I was staying with her, although she has no idea I am her daughter. In other words, go back in time to find somewhere he may have been if he were still living.
If she asks about him during the day I say, "he would be walking today, it's nice out." He walked every day, rain or shine, snow or sleet, weather didn't bother him.
I learned over the years that it usually works best to go along with the delusions. "Oh don't pack yet. We've got another three days here. And they are serving spaghetti tonight and we don't want to miss that!" "The car needs servicing/the bus (train) is running late/the bridge is under repair ... so we can't leave just yet. Aren't you glad this place is so comfortable? Let's go out on the deck and see if we can spot any new birds."
Go along, and offer a distraction. You'll save wear and tear on your patience and frustration for your loved one.