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Please try to remember that alcoholism is a disease. It will help you help them with more compassion.
My take would be that if there is danger for them, Social Services should be called. If there is hope they will get help, maybe a good friend or religious leader who understands the disease can help them seek treatment. If one or both are veterans, the VA may be able to help.
Good luck. You've got your hands full.
Carol
Yes, alcoholism is a disease but any effort at treatment isn't going to make much of a difference unless the alcoholic admits he/she has a problem and begins taking personal responsibility for his behavior and the way he's living.
If you dive in to help out of love, you'll be an enabler. If you confront them about their addiction/disease, you'll give them another excuse to keep neglecting themselves, bickering, blacking out, and falling on their asses and break something else. Instead of taking the bull by the horns, I suggest another approach: go to an Alcoholic Anonymous meeting (they're just about everywhere), and tell your story. You'll be amazed by the number of people that have or are going through the same. They can connect you with a ton of resources, including Social Services.
Religious leaders aren't going to be much help. All of them will urge you to pray to their Higher Power for personal strength and your parents' recovery. People's suffering enhances their influence and power, so of course they'll care about your plight. But don't be surprised if they insist you keep on coming and give to the church. After all, churches are big business. ... What you need is practical Earthly advice to help your parents right now; and worry about saving your soul and getting to Heaven later.
Still, any way you look at it you can't save people from themselves; especially adults committing slow suicide who won't admit they have a problem. It's painful to watch someone whom you love dearly go down in flames and there isn't much you can't do about it except try to help them see the light and contact the appropriate agencies for assistance.
You loved them before you knew they really had a problem, you still do and you always will no matter what happens. But the bottom line is that people make choices and there's no reason why others should have to pay for them.
Tough love baby! If they ask you for money, don't give it to them. If they're having an argument, don't interfere unless a life and death situation. If they ask you why you've forgotten them, tell them it's because of their drinking. Of course be there if you notice they're making a sincere effort at recovery. Stay away if you sense you're being manipulated into enabling their alcoholic lifestyles.
Good luck my friend, and keep us posted.
Again, thank you so much for your help and concern. I believe I may seek the social services department as suggested. I realize my opinion may be biased in many ways. Possibly having the situation surveyed by an outside individual could ease or answer any questions. Is there a particular department or group that I should seek?
Thank you