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There are different opinions on this. Some say the loved one needs at least a few weeks without visits to get settled in and adjusted. I think it depends on the person.
How much does she remember? Does she have dementia? If so, then she may not remember if you are there one day to the next. My cousin, who is in Memory Care assisted living, forgets I visited 5 minutes after I leave. I still call her and visit regularly though. We enjoy the moment and I make sure she's doing okay.
Most of the family members that I know go maybe once per week. Is she getting assistance with her meds, meals, bathing, etc? Is there some reason you feel you must go daily?
And her state of dementia didn't leave room for such change. After 6 days in AL, she had forgotten how to dress herself, how to walk normal distances, how to take care of her teeth. The staff at the AL didn't even try to make her welcome or assist in any way, in spite of assurances that they "knew how to deal with this sort of thing." Now she's home again.
Many ALs are really just country club apartments, with no real intention of "care" -- the advantages good for those with physical needs, but not mental ones. We looked into memory care at 80,000 a year, but we found we do as good a job as they can. The downside is, no relief for us, increasing depression for me, and no hope of a happy life for a long time. We'll just have to stick with at-home care until the resistance is no longer an issue, or hospitalization provides an out, sometime in the distant future.
Can you find someone to help with in-home care, or set up a room/apartment to distance yourself a little? We couldn't, but I think that would help.
Good luck.