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https://www.nytimes.com/2006/04/10/health/10kidney.html
As neither of these may not be readable, many patients with kidney stones do pass them without shock wave and are often given Dilaudid.
IF and only IF they don't think she will suffer because of it (other than UTIs - sometimes if they recur often it is better to be on antibiotic long term, say 6 months) or it will cause any other issues, then perhaps leaving it alone might be okay. I am not familiar with this condition, but from others' comments, it does sound like it would be good if something could be done, preferably without general anesthesia.
If need be, especially if they insist only major surgery will take care of this condition, seek a second opinion. Have records, including imaging and results forwarded to the other doctor. Best to make decision when you have all the information you can get and have all the options laid out in front of you!
Although mom did not have dementia at the time, one orthopedic doc told my mother no one would operate on her shoulder at her age, mid-80ish at the time. Another went ahead with it and she did fine after, went home (lived alone) same or next day, had in home PT, did all the exercises, etc. Recovered very nicely! Different doctors have different ideas and attitudes about treatments!
I meet with the anesthesiologist way in advance and ask them to use Desfurane rather than Isoflurane in the anesthesia cocktail. I had researched that issue before. Maybe it is just the power of suggestion for me but neither of us has suffered any additional issues.
Just because a procedure CAN be done does not mean it SHOULD be done. And that leaves family members with the difficult and painful duty of making life or death decisions for their LO's.
Now I just need to get mom a new GP. The one we have doesn't take anything we bring her in for very seriously... It is in the works!
My FIL is 94 and having cataract surgery tomorrow; he is 20/200 in that eye so it is reasonable to do it. His original intent was to fix his eyes, (the other eye is 20/80) as his current vision level is not sufficient to continue driving although he has been driving since I was not aware of the cataracts or macular degeneration. He and MIL are still in independent living wing but I was able to get a month of medication management since he needs eye drops 3 times a day and I don't trust him to remember. But if he had a condition that needed more post op care, like dressing changes, he would have had to go to SNF at least for a while
At 96 yo my father had his appendix removed and yes the anesthesia affected him. But what can you do? He was a bit more forgetful and all afterwards. He also had a general when he broke his femur at the age of 97! Lordy!!
Current guidelines with regards to patients with cognitive decline and anesthesia
published January 2019
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/anae.14530
I am not necessarily sure drinking more water will help- this will cause more back up of urine into the kidneys. If she is in the hospital she is probably receiving IV fluids for hydration. This too is excreted by the kidneys.
My guess is her doctors will insert a suprapubic catheter to bypass the blockage if she isn’t a good surgical candidate.
Hindsight being 20/20 she probably should not have had the surgery. She lived another, long ten years with worsening dementia. Cancer is sometimes very slow progressing in the elderly. Think and carefully consider her options here. Assisted living may very well not be appropriate following the surgery for many different reasons.
Amazing how the two docs approached so differently after watching kidneys decline for months.
Good advice on discussing it with the drs in advance.
Anesthesia in the elderly with dementia can be very detrimental, but it can also after elders who did not have dementia (might seem to have it after surgery, just like sometimes UTIs can do and some never return to pre-surgery levels.)