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Don't beat yourself up. You had an angel there that covered your error. No you know do have a system you can count on and a time when you are not distracted.
Bless you for being so caring.
What to check? 1) Right patient. 2) right drug 3) right dose. 4) right time
5) expiration of medication. 6) what is it for? Then, check 3 times!
I agree, stop beating yourself up. You will be more careful, and if you learn how to do nursing notes (write down above) you will be very good at it with your serious ethics. You are good.
When my mom did her own (she was 85), she made some whoppers. This was before we realized how bad things were with her. When she got to the end of the bottle? She thought she was done and didn't have the prescription refilled. I, thinking I was being a dutiful daughter, called every morning and asked if she had taken her pill. Oh, yes, she said. After three months of this, I noticed that her memory was MUCH worse. So, I asked her to show me the bottle. After fretting and stomping around for ten minutes she brought out an old bottle of vitamins and some aspirin. She didn't even have the right pills int he house!
That is another way of looking at it. Listen to Rocknrobin!
Not saying there will not be another mistake but this is what I have done now.
1. Purchased additional boxes. I now setup two weeks at a time and keep them in my care. (Mom sneaky.)
2. Printed a simple Microsoft word document that tells what meds go in the a.m. slot and what meds go in the p.m. slot. Keep with the meds.
3. I count the pills in the first a.m. slot. Next, make sure all the other a.m. slots match in count, color, and size. Same for p.m.
4. I wrote on the pill bottles what each med treats.
5. No more multi-tasking. Done only when I have a quiet and undisturbed environment. Usually, sigh, early morning.
If there are other suggestions for this medication business, please let us know. I’m open to additional suggestions.
Once a friend who was very successful in changing careers and eventually became prominent in his field was discussing a career change. He said he'd made some mistakes, analyzed the situations, recognized what was done wrong and developed a corrective mechanism. Then he moved on, without berating himself.
It's not the same as a medicine issue, but it certainly was important to his career.
I would have been criticizing myself for months, and still do. His situation was much more positive, so I try to remember that now but still have a tendency to mentally beat myself up when I make a mistake that shouldn't have been made.
So my answer to you is that - if the situation is hectic, either undertake the task at another time, or double check it later. Think how you can avoid this situation in the future - perhaps fill meds when no one is around, when it's quiet and peaceful. And double check later.
We're all human; you are too, and your concern reflects such a high level of care and self chastisement that you've suffered enough. Think of more alternate methods if you can, treat it especially as a learning experience and recognize that it's alerted you to a possibility which you can help avoid in the future.
Personally I think elders are taking too many pills. Example, they don't need multi-vitamins. Just vitamins that their blood test show they are low on... otherwise all an elder or a person of any age does is pee out what isn't needed.
Honestly, you have my total sympathy. I did a similar thing, giving morning med's twice (still don't know how I did that - how did I DO that????). I wanted to kick myself all round the room.
Praise that aide to the skies, be glad that no harm was done; and remember that this is not easy - in nursing homes and hospitals everywhere nurses doing med rounds wear brightly coloured tabards so that people don't interrupt them. As caregivers, we can't hang a Do Not Disturb sign on the phone or on our daily lives; but make a conscious effort to do the trays when it's quiet and you're able to concentrate.
What's that little ha-ha-very-funny? - "Nobody's perfect. Even I made a mistake once." Feel better :)