By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
So very happy you took this step!
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/i-finally-went-to-al-anon-480802.htm?orderby=recent&page=1�v
You can't spend your life worrying about her, she is an adult responsible for her own behavior, just as you are.
Don't become her emotional prisoner.
I second Alva, AlAnon and Nar-Anon are great! I bet that you could even find meetings online if you can’t make it to an in person group. Go in person if you possibly can though.
My oldest brother (now deceased) was an addict. A lovely nurse told me to go to meetings when she saw me struggling to care for my brother in the hospital after his horrific motorcycle accident.
I was glad that I went for support. Give it a try.
Allowing her to fully see and bear the consequences of her actions is the only way she can learn or choose not to. Either way, it's her choice, not yours.
But I was amazed by the support, the networking of the group, people coming up to me as a new person with suggestions about trying different meetings as the communities varied (my city is FULL of this kind of support). And people had all sorts of resources.
The person I had to give up on was not a spouse. What happened? We still see one another once in a while, we are friendly and we move on. He still drinks. It is a choice not to get help.
I think that you will find people at Al-Anon to tell you all about their stories. I bet they will vary a whole lot and have little to do with the outcome of your own. I think what you are doing takes great strength, and I wish you good luck. And wish that for your Mom as well. Please leave her the contact numbers for AA.
She will probably become a ward of the county. Then will be transitioned into a Medicaid facility where she will have housing, meals and medical care. It may not be the Tajmahal, but it's all she will need.
May you gain wisdom and receive peace in your heart that sometimes there are no good solutions, only "least bad" options.