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There is one sentence in your question that particularly bothers me. It is the one stating: "It is difficult for me to be pleasant with Mom." Is this because of your disagreement with your sister, or because of your exhaustion and frustration, or both? As the child with whom she is living, this is not a healthy situation, which I'm sure you realize. I would suggest that you find an objective third party to come in and try to do some mediation or bringing your mother and you and your siblings to a place of agreement and understanding. You may be able to find someone who can do this through your local agency on aging, otherwise there are qualified people who can be found through the internet.
Continuing down the path of disagreement between you and your sister and other siblings, and possibly your mom, is not going to serve any of you well, especially your mom. I hope that, before any more damage is done, you will get the help you need to resolve this in the best interest of everyone. Once decisions have been made and all the supporting documents are in place, and you have some supports in place, it should provide a great deal of relief to you all.
Your mother deserves the best care, best advice, and best service she can get. What she needs right now is someone specializing in estate planning and/or elder law. While she is still competent to act on her own behalf, she needs to consult a professional with the training and experience to give the best advice. That is probably not your sister's friend.
You cannot act unilaterally in selecting a lawyer ... the joint POA is tying your hands. (Can you see why joint POA is generally discouraged?) BUT mother can act in her own behalf without consulting any of you. You live with her. Presumably you have some influence. You can help her select a lawyer and encourage her to listen to his or her advice and make up her own mind about how to get her affairs in order and make the best arrangements for a time when she cannot act for herself.
Forget the conversations with your sisters at this point. Be glad that they are distancing themselves from you (at least for the present). Focus on conversations with Mother.
You know what has to be done. Get 'er done.
Good luck!