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By all means, you certainly have a right to know the answer to that question.
Sorry to hear that your father didn't reach out to you and apologize for all those years.
I would assume if Dad removed you as trustee, that he may have removed you as beneficiary. Not knowing how Trusts work, is that even something that can be done?
It often takes time and paperwork you may have to complete to access any $ you may inherit anyway. My husband’s mother just passed 5/24/20 & he and his siblings are still in the process of splitting up her estate. My husband has been filling out paperwork including getting forms notarized to prove his identity as a beneficiary, which during Covid is not easy.
My advice is to step back for now and wait a few weeks. If you haven’t been informed in 30 days I would ask your siblings on day 31.
I am sorry for your loss.
I, personally, think that you should wait the 30 days that a Trustee has to notify you if you are a beneficiary.
Let them deal with the loss and burial before asking them about your potential inheritance.
Are you sure that he restated the Trust or amended it? Not so easy for a irrevocable trust to be changed after one of the persons dies. You can always approach it as though you were still the Trustee in charge and that would prompt you getting a copy of the change.
None of the Trusts on which I worked were required to be filed in Probate; that was back in the mid to late 1990s and early 2000s though, so laws may have changed.
HRLot, I don't know what state you or your father lived in, so if DD is right, there's no way for us to tell whether or not your state requires trusts to be filed, assuming you are in fact referring to a Trust.
Wills generally do have to be filed, depending on assets. Whether or not a PourOver Will in conjunction with a Trust has to be filed depends on whether or not any of the assets were transferred into the Trust. There's typically a "funding" of a trust, involving deeds, title transfers, etc. as well as a PourOver Will, funding the Trust with miscellaneous assets.
A PourOver Will MIGHT be subject to Probate, but assets funded and retitled in the Trust generally are not, with the exception of financial assets and real property which eventually are conveyed to identified heirs, and those transfers aren't made public.
I think the issue of whether you're referring to a Living Trust, an Irrevocable Trust or a Will needs to be clarified first, as others have written.
My guess would be that, if you walked away with ZERO contact, it is more than likely that your parent walked away from you as well. I am glad that your sister notified you. I am sorry that your feeling of abuse was so strong that you apparently cut off any contact with your parent and with other family members.
Trusts have the Trustee and he is now responsible for dispersing the gifts of the Trust. Trusts often have a will be be filed as well; in some instances where there is only one Trustee who is also the sole beneficiary this doesn't have to be done in some state.
You might write your brother (and sister?) a nice letter telling them you are sorry for their loss of your Dad. You might ask them if, since it is your understanding that the trust was amended from your old copy, you remain a beneficiary of anything at all. I mean it sounds a bit odd, even to me, but it would relieve your mind one way or the other. There are several choices for you now.
1. Wait and see. There was no relationship with your father. Whether he left you money or not is kind of moot at this point.
2. Send a certified Lawyer letter. Which may accomplish zero.
3. Ask your brother and sister.
That's pretty much it.
I am sorry you didn't have any relationship at all with your father. You seem to be at peace with it as your only choice for your own well being, so just continue on with you life whatever the case.
if he won’t give you any info then Try contacting the attorney that drew up the original trust, they may have been the same attorney who amended the trust (or drew up a new one) . With trusts there aren’t necessarily going to be county filings because there is no probate. Trusts are created to avoid probate and court.