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If she WANTS to help, though, that's a different matter. When she's ready, when she offers, be glad and encourage her - it'll make her feel useful and wanted.
At 87 don't plan on her cleaning the house or mowing the lawn, she has pretty much paid her dues in life, but try to find small things and ask her if she would please help you do this or that.
My mom is having a time of it because her house is a 2 story with basement and attic. So she was used to climbing staircases. Now she no longer can, yet the medical help that comes in toys with her mind and when they discuss her doing steps they make her feel as if she could, but then they turn and say...it's too soon to be doing steps. I refuse to let her do them 'on my watch'. I told her only do them if and when a home care aide is present. She was preparing 'Sunday Dinner'...She started to peel and slice potato's and of the 6 she got 4 done before she had to quit and call me in. I was in another part of the house doing something else before I went to get a drink and saw her mess in the kitchen. ROFL. So i started to help her finish what she started. That dinner prep wore her out so bad that she actually slept well for a change. Usually she'd be up and in the kitchen at 10:30, midnight..maybe even 1 am snacking.
Bottom line is I'm doing the 'chores' and mom does super light cleaning provided they are capable of doing so. I see no issue with elderly parents doing light things...making their own bed, keeping their own bathroom clean(but not super clean), dusting, folding laundry that you take care of). If they have been told by the doctor they can't do steps...it's wise to keep it that way and to not have them doing daily chores or expect them to do what they use to do 20 years ago when they were healthier.
Elders get depressed when they can no longer help out with chores so it is good to at least try to involve them with the little things...even if it is only drying a few dishes after you wash them..or just putting them away after you wash and dry. To totally deny them participation in any chore is to tell them they are useless..which will cause withdrawal and depression and a very bitter attitude.