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However, you must step back from Mum right now. She is in long term care now. If you cannot arrange compassionate leave from your employer, talk to the care facility and let them know you are not available for the next month or 6 weeks. If you were dead, they would have to act in Mum's best interest, so tell them to do that now.
There is a stat floating around this site that 40% of care givers die before the person they are caring for dies. I do not know where that number comes from, but I have a family story.
11 years ago a cousin needed orthopedic surgery. Nothing major nor life threatening. When he got the surgery date his wife tried to change her holidays to coincide with his recovery. Now, it was summer time and holidays had been scheduled for months. Her employer said no, she was able to take the Friday of the surgery off, but no other days.
She got the flu over the weekend, fever, exhaustion etc. Monday she called in sick, Tuesday she went to the hospital, Wednesday she was dead. She was 42, they had 2 boys 10 and 12. It was Toxic Shock. She was so busy worrying about her DH, getting the kids to the grandparents and all the day to day chores of being a mother and wife that she left a tampon too long.
So my point for you is that you cannot ignore your own health. Mum is in the hands of professionals and they can do all the work for the rest of the summer. You need to have your chest pains investigated, likely you will need to wear a Holter monitor for a day or so and may be sent for additional tests.
Your kids need to have a healthy mother.
If Mum has money available, hire someone to sort out her finances. There are people out there, like me, who actually enjoy this sort of thing. Don't take on an additional burden.
Your health comes first. Don't be cavalier about your symptoms. You are no good to your mother dead or disabled because you ignored the warning signs of heart disease or brain attack.
The transitions in elder care are difficult and often leave us feeling out of control and overwhelmed as a series of new obstacles must be handled. Stress from balancing new responsibilities into an already full life just make that worse. Since your mother has been placed in LTC, I believe you are through the most difficult period, at least it was for me with my father. I also was caring for children during this difficult time so I know what it feels like to be pulled in 3 or 4 different directions. Unfortunately, the stress has still left you feeling run down and maybe still stressed out. Are you sleeping well? Taking care of yourself or still trying to see your mother everyday at the NH?
The impact of an employee taking time off is felt more in a small company. Most small companies or offices will push off at least some non-critical duties during an employee's absence for vacation or illness. Have you been able to catch up at work? Although I completely understand wanting to take recovery time off, I would encourage you to take some time and try some other recover methods before pushing for more time off work.
How old are your children? Is there a relative or friend your children could stay with over a weekend or two? I found the fastest stress recovery for me was turning everything over to someone else and checking into a small local hotel with an insuite whirlpool and several restaurants within walking distance. Sleeping without interruption until I awake, then reading or enjoying the whirlpool or a movie, walking to restaurants for a unhurried meal and walking around the hotel scenic landscaping for a couple of days makes a huge impact. I think the combination of being off "on call" for anyone and catching up on my sleep has the big impact.