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Speak with your Mom about what she wants now. If you are her POA for health then follow her wishes after discussing with the rest of the family what they are. If she would like Hospice please honor her wishes. If she wants basically to eat what she wants, move when she wants, then honor THAT.
Sometimes we ask a family or a forum when we should ask the person involved. I wish you so much luck. I am so sorry for what your Mom is going through, and what you must witness and worry about.
If I were in your shoes, and she was my mother, I would let her rest and sleep as much as she wants. She can eat and drink when she wants. The main focus would be to give her the most comfort, not to cajole her to do things she obviously has no energy for. To do the things you want her to do may seem easy for you, but for her, it may be like running up the stairs or climbing hills. If she regains strength and recovers, great, if not, at least she is comfortable for the rest of her days.
Agree.
Unlike the family I had the misfortune to meet recently. 90s+ elder with Alz with #hip; Family wants curative hip surgery rather than comfort care. Why? Elder could walk pre-surgery & still recognised her family. But, also had delusions, is very physically aggressive, has emotional distress & DNR in place.
Child 1 brings crystals & wants a full walking talking mother.
Child 2 wants her to go on & die (peacefully)
Child 3 changes mind everyday between the two directions.
They bickered, distracted, obstructed care, argued with medical team about what direction they WANTED.
A no time seemed able to comprehend the future would happen regardless of what they WANTED but what would BE.
The elder could have been returned to her own NH room & bed to live her days in familiar surroundings with familiar staff, to recover or not as would be. But no, the bickering continued, then whether to transfer to a hospice setting - for so long that she was too unstable to move by that time. The obstruction to comfort measures resulting in pressure injuries (reported to the Coroner).
I hope never to see such selfishness again dressed up as 'caring'.
I am with Alva with how to handle the situation. Maybe u should take her to the doctor just to get her vitals checked and make sure it not meds not something physical. Maybe she is depressed.
Maybe she needs to take Less Meds.
Most Seniors are taking far more meds than they need or should be.
You mentioned she just had Major Surgery and it's only been 3 weeks?
How long did they want her to go to Rehab? Probably much longer than 3 weeks?
Maybe she just needs more rest as she just had Major Surgery.
You should find out things they would have had her do in rehab and get her to do them.
Try having her get up and go to the table to eat.
Have her get up to go to the Bathroom.
Try interesting her in something she use to like to do.
GI've her a Foot Massage.
GI've her a Manicure and Peducure
Play music in her room.
Open her window up and let some fresh air and sunshine come in.
Look at lots of old pictures with her and reminise.
Let her use crayons to color a picture.
Play a game of cards with her.
Prayers
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