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Wouldn't it be nice if there was some sort of disinterested third=party who could listen to all sides, look at the receipts and see the exact situations and then decide what to do? They're called "judges", as in "courts".
Do what you have to do to take care of your mother and don't worry about the siblings. At some point this may become too much for you or for her level of health care needs. At that time, a nursing home may have to be an option. If the siblings will not help and she does not have any resources, then she may have to go on medicade to pay for her care.
He who lives by the sword?gun dies by the sword/gun
He who lives with his heart?Lives with his heart.
Remember - NO GUILT!!!!!!!!!!
If your siblings don't like the fact that you're getting a little money from your Mom, tell THEM to take her in. It's a labor of love & it's damn hard!!!
You need to take care of you and your marriage in seeking to being a good caregiver for your mother.
One more thing, has she been evaluated by a doctor concerning her level of mental competency?
Lisaalexis, your mom is quite elderly and has limited funds left for her care. I think in NY they have community medicaid which will entitle you in in-home health care if she qualifies and needs it (but her money needs to be gone). Check with their offices, I think the look-back period for community medicaid is relatively short - less than 6 months. The in-home health care would free your husband up to do his work. What my family doesn't seem to understand is the long-term financial impact on ME - I can't work, so hence no contributions to social security, which will limit my benefits when I am eligible. This has nothing to do with mom's money, but everything to do with mine. You need some legal advice - see an eldercare attorney and make some things legal to protect yourself.
I hope you did gain something.
Tell your siblings where to go !! I told mine-just don't know if they got there yet--seems they don't wish to talk to me anymore.
We caregivers seem to always get the s--t end of the stick.
Don't let them get you down.
Do you have POA?
Your siblings sound like mine.