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I'd get back to her doctor, describe what she's doing, and ask for short-term help to get her over the hump until such time as you can get her to a neurologist, maybe? Although it could be that caregiving has stressed her out and exacerbated an underlying problem. In any case, I agree with Sunnygirl - seek advice urgently.
Your situation makes me ask if there was anything unusual in her environment to precipitate this change in behavior?
I'm also wondering if there's been a change in your father's health or anything else that might be frightening her. I ask this because when my sister was in the terminal months of cancer, her oncologist had a frank discussion with both of us one day trying to address the denial that was affecting our outlook. Her oncologist wasn't very tactful, and we both left that appointment with very unsettling and depressing thoughts. It was as if we had been hit by high winds, slapped around, picked up and dumped down on the ground and left alone in the middle of a violent storm.
That night I had what I'd call an anxiety episode, hearing the sounds around the house as loud ones, sufficient to suggest someone was prowling and/or attempting to break in. This went on for hours until I finally gave in and called the police, who found nothing.
After I calmed down the next day, I heard the sounds again that night. It was the lilac bush being brushed against the house, something I had heard for months, but in the heightened state of fear and anxiety, the sounds were so much louder that it literally scared the wits out of me.
I'm wondering if your mother is in a similar state, for whatever reason, perhaps the change in living environment and the fact that she and your father are living in a facility shared by a lot of people they don't know. Coupled with dementia, being surrounded by people she doesn't know could be scaring her to the point of delusions.
Until it's resolved, I would not think it is safe for her to be left alone or the caretaker for another person. She and your dad may be at risk. I'd see that they are supervised until the hallucinations and delusions are resolved. That might be done with medication, but if she is resistant to taking medication, then she may not be able to live unsupervised. Her medication would have to properly administered by someone else.
I'd quickly look for places for placement or somewhere she can stay until she gets diagnosed and the hallucinations under control. I would treat it as an emergency. I wish you all the best.