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She seemed to realize that her panic attacks and lonliness of living alone wasn't good for her. Now, she drops hints to my sister that she isn't happy but that "I haven't any other choice." I think mom (along with my sister and brother) always assumed that mom would live with my husband and me since I have the room. I have always told my sibs that I couldn't have mom live with me b/c she is very dependent and I wouldn't have any private time with friends, vacations, etc. b/c she would want to be with me 24/7. If mom had a personality where she could cope and entertain herself (I work 20 hrs/wk and my husband just retired and it isn't fair to put him into the job of caretaker)I wouldn't mind mom living with me. I just know that I would come to resent her each day. (Also, I have childhood issues of her not protecting me from an alcoholic, abusive father). I visit mom about 3 times/week and take her out for occasional outings such as lunch, manicures, etc. but I feel a load of guilt for mom's unhappiness.
Best to you and to your Mom--on the transition-and in the long run-this could be the best way to go for everyone involved.
Hap
They hear what they want to......which isn't "your living with me mom forever and I will take care of everything you want first and foremost". but is probably what she wants.
IMO there is no "easing into accepting", you just have to do it if that is
the situation that is needed for your family and your mom's best level of care.
This might sound cruel but children are not responsible for their parents.
This it needs to be because you want to do this & are not forced too