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By chance do either or both of your parents have dementia? if so, it can be the dementia doing the talking as the brain is broken and they just can't think straight.
You need also to ask yourself, if the caregiving is to a point where you feel like you are going to crash and burn, is the estate [mainly half of it when both pass on] be worth this tug of war that your parents are placing on you?
Your Dad, if he has dementia, is only going to get worse and he might find himself in Assisted Living [if he can budget the cost] or in a nursing home [where Medicaid is paying for his care]. Thus, the estate finances will drop considerable.
How I wish caring for elder parents was so complicated :P
If it were me, the most I would do is ensure your father knows where your mothers original will is kept. At least in Oregon, the original will is required for a transfer of assets and probate - a copy, even a "certified" copy is considered the same as having no will.
But I ask you - without judgement- does knowing you will be "in charge" or a beneficiary- sole or otherwise- make a difference in whether you continue to provide care for you parents? If not, I'd let the matter drop, beyond being aware of where the original wills are kept. If it might make a difference - if you are not a beneficiary and your sister inherites everything (it would for me if I was the sole caregiver and then completely cut out in favor of the non-caregiving sibling) well, you might want to rethink your role in looking after your parents.
If you are counting on inheriting as compensation for your caregiving now - don't. "Many a slip 'tween the cup and the lip" as my father use to say.
Beyond that, it's pretty crappy of your parents to jerk you around by dangling their will. But its worse if you are letting it.