By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
To answer your question, it’s definitely not unreasonable to have her wear disposables. I understand what you’re going through.
If your mother needs her underwear cleaned of feces and fecal matter cleaned out of her shower, she's not "independent".
I'd stop pussyfooting around this. Call her doctor and tell her/him what is happening. Ask for advice. Follow it.
Remove all her underwear and replace them with pull-ups.
Make sure she's not taking immodium and laxatives both. My mother totally screwed up her bowels with her self-medication.
And if she wants free help with this, she’s going to have to wear depends as opposed to a product meant to deal with the last day of a woman’s period.
Since despit her independence, she will not be scrubbing her own feces, she can go along with it willingly to be independent.
If her perineal muscles are weak, she can not control her bowel movements. She might be a candidate physical therapy. Her doctor w=can write a prescription.
In the meantime, she would probably benefit from pull-up type incontinence briefs. There are really pretty ones on the market that will not make her feel like she is wearing diapers. A bidet attachment to the toilet might also be a good investment. It will help make sure she is "cleaner" after every visit to the toilet. It will even help her to avoid UTIs.
A routine with miralax has helped my mom a lot plus removing all pepto bismal and imodium from her senior apartment. She was abusing both and pepto can cause constipation.
Aunt used Metamucil capsules & stool softeners.
Encourage them to toilet after every meal.
Remove all regular underwear from house.
Then heavy padded panties
She refused depends.
But the time came when enough was enough; there is no honor down on the floor constantly cleaning some other person’s sh%t.
At the advice of her caregiver I tried diapers.
Whew! No more down on the floor cleaning.
See All Answers