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Think about it. You didn't make a decision that's set in stone for life! Everything is subject to change, including dad's living arrangements.
Good luck!
However, regardless of reasons, do not let him descend further into Senior Brat behaviors, like insulting you, ordering you around, disrupting your plans or playing the tyrant to test your love.
I am very bitter and feel slightly guilty.. I keep telling myself it is due to age..and she is miserable.. hell I am miserable..
If I ever felt "guilty for feeling bitter," as you put it, I don't recall. I recall feeling bitter. I recall feeling guilty.
It's hard, if not impossible, to not feel one, the other, or both. It's natural, comes with the territory.
You did what you felt was right. If you decide at some point to place him b/c the stress is taking too much of a toll, I'd bet you'd feel guilty about that, too. Also natural.
"...he is a person for heaven's sake...." and we all know people can be a PITA, even our LOs, and we all know caregiver's are humans and subject to real, undesirable yet understandable reactions and feelings.
You are expounding your natural feelings by questioning them, by wondering what kind of person this makes you. Try to give yourself a break.
Concentrate on all you've done, all you're doing, These are good things, compassionate and caring things.
Again, there is nothing wrong, should the time come, to admit your mental and emotional health is in jeopardy, and other arrangements need to be made. You will be less of the caregiver you desire to be if you are not healthy. We can't take care of others, even those in AL or NH, if we aren't taking care of own basic needs.
Hugs.
You can be grateful that somebody did not die before his time and still find his care more than you are able to manage in your own home, you know.