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Sure do wish you luck.
Consider getting hospice on board to be there at the end. They can do so much to help with any pain or anxiety.
The one thing I'll caution is to ensure your loved one is someplace where a gurney can go. My dad was in an upstairs bedroom, and the mortuary folks couldn't got the gurney up the stairs. My brother had to help them carry my dad's body down the stairs, and it was a traumatic experience I wouldn't suggest to anyone.
As hearing is the last sense to go, I think it's up to you or other family members as to what kind of environment you want for your loved one, as they get ready to transition. I know that I kept on some pretty soft music, for the last several days of my husbands life, but looking back on it, I think that was more for me, to keep me calm than anything else.
Of course some people are quite agitated, if there is something they want to say or something they want to happen (for some people that might be a priest for the last rites, for others a family member they wish was there). But the three people whose deaths I know well have gone quietly, falling into a last sleep.
Even cultures where noisy wailing is the custom for mourning, it is usually left until after death.
The benefit of hospice is that no-one needs to be in pain at the end. Morphine stops the pain, and also helps the relaxation that leads to the end when the body can no longer hang on. Without it, some people would be in great pain (eg from cancer), while others would just fade away. The 'rattle' breathing sounds awful, but we are told that it is not actually painful.
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