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They of course had to start meeting on Zoom 2 years ago because of Covid, but just a month ago started meeting back in person.
You cannot put a price on this kind of support group, as it's vitally important for the caregiver to get the support they need and to not feel all alone.
No one understands better what we caregivers go through, than another caregiver who has walked or is walking in your shoes.
You're right. We need more support groups for caregivers. Ones like the one I attend that meets weekly and where everyone gets a chance to talk and share with the rest of the group exactly what they're going through. It's a game changer for sure and in my case, a life saver as well.
Getting a caregiver in for a few hours 1 time a month will give you a bit of a break that is well deserved and important to your mental well being.
It will get you out of the house and your loved one will be just fine with someone else taking care of them for a few hours. They may even benefit from someone else staying with them for a few hours.
The communication with others is important. As well as getting to express what you are going through. And there may be some that have gone through what you are dealing with n ow and you may help someone that is having a problem that you may have "solved".
As caregivers "we" are isolated enough as it is adding "self imposed isolation or mandated isolation" on top of that is not good mentally. I have seen many friends decline over the past 18 to 24 months. I can only think that isolation did not help.
This forum is great, on line groups are great BUT neither has the human connection that meeting with a group has.
We are not meant to be solo creatures we need the contact and connection with others.
If a group is not possible at least connect with friends and meet with them in person. One of the things that happened to me as a caregiver is that friends stopped asking me to meet them for lunch, dinner, go for coffee because I was busy taking care of my Husband this isolated me even further. Getting caregivers to help me allowed me to reconnect and helped keep me sane. (although that might be up for debate, the sanity part)
I was new to the diagnosis of dementia for my wife. I contacted the ALZ hotline (or whatever it’s called) and was told about a caregiver group meeting near me. I attended the Dementia/Alz caregiver group once a month before covid shutdown came up. A caregiver (private pay) came to our house to be with my wife while I was out. At the first meeting, I left wondering why I even attended. But I went to the second meeting, got a little more out of it. Third month, “Hey! This is pretty interesting.” After that, they couldn’t keep me away.
There was only one rule at the meeting. What was talked about there was not to be discussed outside of the meeting with anyone.
Some people came for one or two meetings, others had been attending for many months. I got a lot of information from the people and got respite time also.
For me, in-person meetings worked. Others don’t have time or don’t care to meet that way. That’s fine. I say “What works, works.”
It's very interesting that you went from "wondering why I even attended" to "After that, they couldn’t keep me away" in about 3 meetings. If you don't mind sharing, how did that happen, how did it grow on you?
This forum has done more for me than I could explain. It has given me friends living the same life. I have received very good advice and been able to give in return.
Some Churches or other houses of worship have support groups as well.
The Support Group that I attended for many years was discontinued when COVID started and talking to members of the group my friend and I decided that we would start it up again. So we found a location and started making calls. It is a "Peer driven support group" and it is what many need at this time.
So moral of the story here is if there is not a group and you think there is a need START one.!
There are many Support Groups on line as well.
I find in my neck of the woods that most of the Caregiver Support Groups are held at Assisted Livings and/or Medical Facilities. The last thing anyone of us needs to do is go to another medical office. To me that would not be a night out. I think if small group neighborhood gatherings were held in a local Cafe, coffee shop, bookstore, etc. a suitable environment that would be conducive to looking forward to attending as opposed to another medical appointment.
However, these groups could be advertised in doctor's offices. A lot of Elder Attorneys host caregiver groups at Assisted Livings. That can be a good thing for people who are starting out and need advice.
You could start your own, perhaps a conference room at a library or Church hall.
They are definitely needed. The Pandemic everything needed to be done online but it's nice if you host a meeting in your neighborhood then when you go to the local supermarket you run into other members.
I belong to my local Church prayer chain. Each week they call me 2-3 times with prayer requests. This week I am having 2 members over for coffee. These are people you can confide in who don't gossip and are of the same Faith. For me this works! Amen...
For me, getting out the house to attend a caregiver's support group would only complicate things, so online is a better option for me.
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