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Move only if YOU want to. It sure does not sound like mom needs your help or even wants or expects it.
Quit your job only if YOU want to. And I would not quit one you have until you have another. (and 10 years remaining is not a lot of time when you figure holidays, personal days, weekends and vacations..you are almost retired!)
What is with the Condo near your mom? Do you have it rented or is it vacant? Renting it (if allowed by HOA) would give you another bit of income (particularly if it is on the Cape!)
If mom needs to get away and your apartment is vacant maybe mom can stay there and use that as a "respite" spot. (if it is rented she can stay for a few days between rental)
If your relationship with mom is as tenuous as you indicate I do not think moving for her or to be with her is going to help you or her. I might feel differently if your mom was in need of care or at end of life but that does not seem to be the case.
Do you have kids you expect to care for you?
The way our society is set up, adults are expected to earn, contribute to taxes in their countries and rely upon their savings and social programs to provide care for their old age.
Adult children are not a retirement plan.
If she's like this now, just imagine trying to help someone who is resistant AND you don't have the legal authority to make decisions on their behalf. If you're not her DPoA and she's resistant you have no power anyway, no matter where you live.
Live where you want and how you want. Take her at her word. If she ever comes back to you asking for help, you can find resources for her and arrrange for aids (if she has the money) or transition her into a care community w/Medicaid but don't feel obligated to provide hands-on help or move in with her. She is obviously suffering from the problem of romanticizing her retirement years where she is somehow immune to age-related cognitive, memory and health decline. You won't be able to change her mind until reality does it for her. You should move onward and upward.