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If he does not agitate your DH when he visits, then let him visit but inform the facility that he is not allowed to take DH out of the building. If he agitates ur husband then ban him.
Best of luck.
What has their relationship been like? During the decline your husband has had and before his diagnosis?
The reason I ask is my response would be different depending on your answers.
If brother (I am assuming his is your BIL not YOUR brother) and your husband have had a good close relationship and brother has been or had been close to your husband I would allow visit when you are not there, or at least in the room. BUT if your husband gets upset then the visits stop immediately.
If on the other hand they have not been close then there is no reason to start a "loving or even cordial" relationship.
If your husband is asking to see brother then I would allow it as long as it is not upsetting.
If you do allow visits I would request that brother call in advance and your husband brought to a common area rather than the visit be in his room. This way there are others around if the visit gets upsetting for either of them.
If you want you can be at the facility but you can remain in your husbands room or stay in another common area.
You can consider a "supervised" visit as the only option given to him to make sure he doesn't misinterpret something your husband says in the case that this brother has no understanding of what ALZ does to people.
I believe you can have the final say in who can and who cannot be allowed access to your husband. Do you have POA for him? If so, use it and keep the bully away.