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what is the difference in him riding in a comfortable car and looking at beautiful mountain sceenery or sitting in his chair watching TV. He complains riding tires him out. She/we feel he should have outside stimulation as he does get 12-14 hours of sleep a day. My brother and mother wanted to go...and most of the time they were sweet and greatful, but my father-in-law appears to be un appreciative and complains about everything! Thank you for your re assurance. After reading some of the posts...we really have nothing to complain about. I think our biggest problem is, he bellowed and complained when he was young and now that he is old...is he just continuing with his same pattern into old age or does he do this to demand his way ? He has enough about him to sneak around and get his cigarettes. She allows him to smoke, even though she hates it, but he MUST smoke outside, and never in the car. He is very much like a sneaky rebellous little child, that we love so much, want to do all we can for him, but just don't know where some lines should be drawn.
Respite care is essential. No one can do 24/7 care without breaks and retain their own health and sanity. So ... are there family members who can provide breaks on a regular schedule? Could she count on Wednesday evenings and Saturday mornings to her self, for example. If family cannot do it, perhaps there is a free or low-cost volunteer program she can tap into. Or, an elderly sitter will simply have to be paid. Respite is not optional. She must have breaks.
How to pay for an adult day program or hire sitters? If Father has substantial assets that he's saved for his old age, now is the time to use them! If there are few assets and not enough monthly income to cover these costs, look into what assistance might be available. I'd start with contacting Social Services in their county, and asking for a needs assessment. Even if Father doesn't quality for any county programs, you will probably receive lots of information about community programs that could be useful. Don't knock it until you've tried it! You may want to be present when the social worker comes, if that is acceptable to your father's wife.
And by the way, I would not leave my husband alone even when he is sleeping, if I were in this situation. I would do exactly as your father's wife does. I think she is being prudent, not stubborn or over-reacting. Father does sound like someone who needs 24-hour supervision. Please respect her decision, and do not urge her to go against her better judgment and leave him alone. Caregiving is hard enough without other people second-guessing your decisions!