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Oh well, maybe I should be glad my sig others doesn't know how to open a tool box, as he will be safe when he becomes much older :P
This past Fall my Dad fell on the driveway, and my Mom didn't even know he was even outside. You would need someone at your Dad's house working 2 eight-hour shifts, and then some. Could your Dad afford to do that? My parents can but refuse to do so.
One thing I have noticed, if their doctor says DON'T DO SUCH & SUCH, that my parents are more apt to listen. Thus, tell the situation to your Dad's doctor, that there isn't anyone who can watch your Dad during the day [you work, whatever you do, don't quit], the doctor could write a note saying your Dad needs to be in a *retirement community* [don't call it assistant living or nursing home, folks from that generation have a different view of nursing homes then we do].
This need can be met either by bringing care professionals into the home, or moving the person with dementia in a care center. The care center may range from a group home to assisted living, to a nursing home, to a "memory care" unit of either an assisted living or nursing home facility.
My mother lived alone for many years as a widow. When she was diagnosed with "mild cognitive impairment" her family arranged for meals on wheels, housekeeping help, a visiting nurse, an automated pill dispenser, etc. These measures probably enabled her to live alone for an extra 4 years or so. As the MCI became dementia that was not enough support. She moved in with one of her daughters. That went well for a little over a year, but when she began to need attention around the clock that was just not feasible for one couple to provide in a private home. Mom, age 94, with dementia and mobility issues, is now doing very well in a Nursing Home.
At some point the level of care needed dictates the answers. It no longer can be about what the family or the loved one "wants" -- it has to be based on what is needed.
If Dad can afford 24-hour caregiving, then staying in his home is an option. If not, then it is not. Sorry, but that really is the reality.
How advanced is his dementia?
What does his doctor say his living circumstances should be?
Is it dad or you that does not want to consider a nursing home?
Do you have any siblings who can come together for a family meeting and make a plan for the immediate situation and the future or are you an only child?
Does he have the resources to pay for caregivers to help him at home? My dad has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's rather badly, but lives at home with three caregivers who are there 24/7.
I don't know how old you are or how close you are to your own retirement, but I would not suggest stopping work for you need to take care of yourself and your own retirement. Also, depending on how advanced his dementia is, at some point he will reach the point where he will need 24/7 care which is impossible for one person to do alone. Of those who try about 1/3 end up dead before who they are caring for died and the rest end up in poor health physically, mentally, and financially.