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You are currently facing down the end of life and I am so thankful you have end of life care in place with hospice. The goal in now medication for comfort. Whether it is pneumonia or that failing heart pump or sepsis, something will come to usher your Dad out in all likelihood. I wouldn't worry about that 5 month thing. He is almost certain to continue to qualify for Hospice care. I wish you the best and comfort and peace for your Dad.
If your dad has a lot of congestion, ask the hospice nurse to order the scopolamine patches that they can put behind his ears to help with that. Those worked pretty well for my husband. They put one behind each ear.
So I will just say enjoy whatever time you may have left with your dad, and leave nothing left unsaid.
I wish you peace as you go through this difficult time.
If he can’t use the suction device, don’t worry about it. Concentrate on what kind of good memories you can make with him now. Just reminiscing about good times, watch a favorite movie of his or listen to songs he really likes. Look out the window at the birds. Ask him what was his favorite treat when he was a little boy, like maybe root beer float or jelly beans. If you can, find him whatever it is and enjoy a bite with him.
Sounds like you have done a fantastic job caring for him. He is very lucky to have you. He is also fortunate that he lived this long after smoking so many decades.
PS my dad had dementia and a lot of really bad physical issues, and died in hospice from aspiration pneumonia, which came on from coughing and breathing in his own saliva. No one could have prevented that. Once it set in, he got morphine every two hours around the clock. There was no point in trying to aggressively fight the aspiration pneumonia. I was truly grateful that it took less than 48 hours from onset to his passing. As Margaret said, if not that, something else would have gotten him. Best wishes to you both.