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Here are some suggestions:
(1) Draw the line and let her have it -- and I don't mean the cream;
(2) Share it -- let her pay half;
(3) Hide it under lock and key -- which she'll probably pick it anyway;
(4) Have her buy her own -- flip the script on her and break into her room to use it; or
(5) Give her a facelift for Christmas.
That cream of yours must be good stuff. I'm sure your skin is glowing and fresh as the Spring; otherwise she wouldn't steal some of it. Getting older is one of the hardest things to accept, and all of us try to do it gracefully since we can't stop time and cheat mother Nature. Unless she's doing it just to tick you off as some sort of payback, I'm sure that's why she's doing it. Let us know what happens ... plus the name of that cream. My girlfriend can't keep looking better than me all the time.
Always at your service,
-- ED
That should do it. Here's hoping! Good luck!
She may not even like it, it's just the idea that it's YOURS and she CAN and she knows you won't say anything.
Irritated, you want irritated I was at momz 2day to finish spray painting a tresses for my moms garden. When it was done and needed to dry she asked me to replant about 4 different plants. I didn't come over for that and I told her and each time I told her she'd say something else about something else and come right back to replant the plants for me. Finally I just did it. I replanted 2 and got the heck on outta there.
As I was wheeling her in she asked me to put cocoa butter on her face, remember my mom thinks cocoa butter is the magical cure that straightens up your face. I washed my hands, applied the cocoa butter, and headed right on out of there.....irritated.
I know this has little to do with your story but thank you for listening to me vent.
I've also found in my case that I could buy her a cheaper cream and as long as I rave about it and tell her how much better it is than mine, she'll believe me and be tickled pink with it. My grandmother loves the Oil Of Olay face cream that you get at the grocery store, Walmart, Target, etc....because it's been around forever and she's familiar with the namebrand. As for child safety locks on the cabinets and a lock on your bedroom door...if you want any privacy, do it. Grandma complained about it for the first few days. Drove her nuts that she couldn't get to the cookware in the kitchen or the towels and stuff in the bathroom but after a few days, she finally got over it and that was the end of it. Good luck!!
There are two doors to my room. For some reason, she would only use one of them. The one with the lock. I started locking the door and she stopped coming in. I don't care that I had to lock my door - it helped me sleep better knowing I wouldn't wake up and have her watching me.
Now, several months later, I no longer lock the door. She has lost interest. While I'm glad, I am also saddened. There are several things that mom used to do that annoyed me. But now that she has stopped, I miss them because it shows she is losing interest in things.
Protect your privacy - it is important. But don't be surprised if you miss your mom stealing your face cream when she stops. At least right now she is still interested in trying to take care of herself.
Take care.
my step mom wore make up for years and when she got worst on alz , whoa what a face !!! she looked like a clown ! it made her feel so pretty and thinks shes done wonderful . yeah u look great !!! shes happy and im happy .
I could be totally wrong but I wonder if your annoyance at your mom also has to do with a loss of your "private space". She's kind of invaded your personal territory and you have no control over it since you're not there. It would be like a parent reading your diary and then denying it when you could tell he/she'd been in it.
If that's the case, I think that's totally understandable! That's one thing that we as caregivers give up...along with a lot of other things. Maybe finding some additional private space where you can have things that your mom doesn't have access to will help you maintain your sense of independence and personal space.
My mom got into ALL of my makeup and creams, etc. Expensive brushes, the whole deal. it got so I didn't have any makeup and when I tried to brush on some powder one day, the brushes were greasy and useless.
To my mom, my makeup was a big toybox so I just let it all go. She had a blast with it all and I just stopped wearing makeup and worrying about it.
I know that may not be an option for you, but your mom is experiencing dementia and she's going to do what she wants and you have to either stage the area (hide stuff, leave cool, safe stuff out so she has some 'toys') or have arguments about it.
There is no right or wrong here and believe me I know it's annoying but you're not going to win this one so you can make it easier on both of you by realizing that there is no 'teaching', there is no 'reasoning', there is no 'sanity'; there's only a lady with a brain disease who wants to play in your makeup and cream.
I was lucky early on with my mom to have a doc say to me when I was griping: What do you want?!? She's Demented!.
Oh. ok, I get it.
Mom played with 600 bucks of Estee Lauder for a long time. I figured that I certainly got my money's worth every time I would 'catch' mom in the makeup and having a ball.
ehh, so what?
Think about training a dog. When you learn how to train a dog what you are actually learning is how to train yourself to communicate with the dog. In this case you are going to have to train yourself to cope with dementia and the myriad of symptoms it presents, one of which is to play in your daughter's makeup/creams/ointments and then deny it!
Drive you crazy? You bet! if you let it.
Good Luck kiddo and know that everybody here is in your corner!
lovbob
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