By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
And to take on the responsibility of a grandbaby on top of what you are doing is amazing.
I am sure you dad would not want you to give up now on your goal. I say give up because if you stopped school now you would come up with other reasons (not going to say excuses) to not finish.
Talk to your Hospice Social Worker. See if they can find a facility that they work with to place him. He will have not just 24/7 staff to be with him but the Hospice Team will be there as well.
You don't want dad to die alone. Totally understandable.
One of the goals of Hospice is to make sure that no one dies alone. There are Hospice Vigil Volunteers that will come and sit with dad if you can not be there, and even if you are there they will be with both of you to support both of you.
And in many cases if you can do your class work on line you can work right from his room. Skilled Nursing facilities, Memory Care and Hospice In Patient Units do not have "visiting hours" so you can be there whenever you want.
I am sure if you asked dad his wishes would be that you fulfill your goals, finish school.
It’s also OK to WANT to be with him every minute, even while knowing that you must not allow yourself to be spread so thin that you aren’t able to meet any of your own needs.
Have you spoken to your college professors about alternate class assignments, or any recommendations that they can make?
Does your employer have a clear picture of what your dealing with?
Do you have any access to alternative child care for your grandchild?
Is your father lucid enough to benefit from your presence for extended time, or is he comfortable with other company for brief periods so that you can keep some aspects of your own life going?
What you are doing now, is based on pure love, but unless you make an effort to extend that love to yourself, you risk losing yourself.
Please do research residential alternatives to caring for him in your home. Start with online searches. Just to find out.
I had planned to be available to my LO if she needed me at the moment of her passing, but a significant outbreak of COVID prevented me from being there.
Sometimes life just works that way. If you can let up a little bit on your expectations for yourself.
Being with your dad “in his final days “ IS IMPORTANT, but the expectation of your presence being more important than anything else may be a superhuman and therefore UNFAIR DEMAND on you.
I pray. I’m including you and your grandchild and your father as part of my daily prayer “work”.
Let others help you, no matter how little they can do. EVERYONE can become “family” in your kind of situation. Share your situation and ask.
I don’t think your father would want you to let school go , especially when you are so close to finishing .
Is it possible to have Dad go into a nice hospice facility where there are more people around ? You could visit everyday as his daughter , and you would not feel like he is alone?
Perhaps you could call your local dept of aging for help finding a suitable facility . Hospice may also have a support group for you as well or you could seek out one on your own even if it’s online .