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I have depression and GAD (General Anxiety Disorder). I handle life well and am on medication for both. I'm so sorry to hear your family gives you such a hard time about your mental health problems. Finding and seeing the right counselor has been so fantastic for me I can't say enough good about it. I hope this happens for you despite the obstacles.
I don't take garbage from most people. I will consider a well thought out statement that might be true. I research and learn all I need to know to feel comfortable and confident about my illnesses. It does help. I hope some day you can say the same thing, too. I'd love to be at your side and stick up for you when someone tries to put you down.
As long as you are doing the best you can for your Mom and your brother, there's nothing more anyone can expect. You may disappoint yourself, but your limit IS your best. You are in a tough situation and can't change that right now. I hope there will come a time when your Mom does qualify for Medicaid because the amounts to qualify may change in the future. I wish I lived near you because I would help you out however I could. Do you live in FL?
Please don't let your relatives make you feel any less a person because you have a mental illness. Many people have a MI and your family would be quite surprised if they knew all the people who had them. Many lead normal and productive lives. And certainly we aren't to be belittled as if diabetes or coronary heart disease is okay but OCD or anxiety is not. They are all physiological diseases.
Having a mental illness also affects the way family sees you. Even if it has been years, they still remember the "crazy" person you once were. If I mention anything about the panic, people just get real quiet. They don't really get it when it comes to these things that are so common for many.
coulditbeme, you didn't mention what was wrong except you had a mental illness. It may be the reason you didn't get any replies. I found myself wondering if it was anxiety, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, personality disorder (going out of manual now), or something else. There are a lot of us here that do have histories talked about in other threads. I wonder if it in some way may have led to us becoming the caregivers.
I have on my bedroom wall a saying. it goes.:
' if you ae depressed, you are living in the past.
if you are anxious you are living in the future.
if you are at peace you are living in the present'
written by lao Tzu
I find a lot of peace when I read this saying. there is a lot of truth in it.
thank you
Jessiebelle thanks.
You guys are very sweet.
So take care of your personal well-being. Come up with some rules for yourself that you follow in order to maintain good mental health. Unfortunately many of us are surrounded by people who think mental illness is a weakness or a character flaw. They may not understand our need to take our mental health into consideration. That's been my experience. But I take care of myself anyway because when I'm not in balance for extended periods of time it affects everything I do from parenting to working to caregiving. I guard my mental health and take it very seriously. But if I were to explain that to someone who hasn't experienced it they wouldn't understand so I don't discuss it with anyone. I just do what I need to do to stay mentally healthy regardless of what's going on around me. It takes practice but I've gotten the hang of it.
Take care of you :-)
Even with this assistance, I still get stressed out and find I need someone to talko to. I'm very thankful my employer has an EAP program. I have made use of their free counselling numerous times. What I struggle with the most is self doubt, worry about the future, and how to deal with all the emotional jabs I get from my mom I'm slowly learning how to assert myself with my mom. I find the worst thing for me is when I self isolate too much.
Soooo, how about you? Do you balance your needs well? It is hard.