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People will push others to the limit thinking if they don't do the person will have to stay. So a boundary needs to be set in this instance a date. If the roommate does nothing, thats not the OPs fault. By calling APS the OP has done what needs to be done. Make sure the frig in full. Things made convenient for the roommate. The room OP lived in clean and the common areas he used, bathroom and Kitchen. Maybe cleaning up roommates area but if he is a slob, might leave it that way for APS tob see.
That said, in the state I live in anyway, every county has a VA officer to help people navigate this. Though I see Dawn (who gave a great answer)has already addressed this. I might disagree with Dawn a little bit in that as in all things, there are good ones and bad ones. My uncle for example has a great VA rep at his local VA hospital.
When we were dealing with my dad getting free nursing home while having Alzheimers (private nursing home, but paid by contract with VA which is the way to go and the main help here was the social worker at the hospital who knew the VA system up and down.
List of State and County Veterans Service Officers (longtermcarelink.net)
He needs to get VA Medical established first. It takes 4 calls to set up one VA Dr. appt. Their SWs are outside contractors who don't help you at all. I was stunned how bad the entire VA Medical System is.
Find a CERTIFIED VSO (Veteran Service Officer) in your county to help you get the forms done and tell you what to do. He needs a Form DD 214 (his military discharge form), or nothing will happen. He must qualify for VA Medical benefits, and been seen by a VA doctor a few times for evaluations of his condition.
The Wait Lists for placement (if he needs 24/7 care) are 3-5 YEARS. They will offer you Adult Daycare and not much else. I would call APS to report a disabled Vet, that can't live alone, and they may have ways to get him help faster. You need copies of his service record and recent medical records to get him anything from the VA.
The VA talks a good game, but does the least possible. You have to be persistent, or have the VSO help you file the numerous complicated forms. Any "VA emergency numbers" you call never answer, you leave messages they never return. You can drag him into the nearest VA Hospital and demand help to get any, and will be made to come back "by appointment."
Google "VSO Officers" in your county and state first. Then try APS next. I wasted a year trying to do it myself. Let them know you aren't married, he has no family and you have to move away and he can't be left alone. Meanwhile, search for any military paperwork, and gather what you can.
If I hear "thank you for your service" from the VA staff one more time, I just may slap them senseless.
If such is the case, do an ER Dump. Have him sent to the hospital. Send whatever paperwork or family contact information you can get your hands on with him.
You're not his caregiver. If you two were only roomates and nothing else, then it's not your place to be his caregiver. If you were hired to be his caregiver, or there was some agreement made that's different. You can still walk away.
Is where you currently live his place? Do you rent a room or do you live for free in exchange for caregiving services?
These are questions APS and the hospital social workers will be asking and you will have to answer them.
You’ll need information from him before you pursue this. For instance, a DD 214 form with his service information. Dealing with the VA is a major headache, and they won’t talk to you about much unless you are designated by him.