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Exercise can be done in bed, and there are basic movements she can do even in bed to keep flexible and move forward. Exercising in bed actually has a massage like effect and is easy to do. There are videos on you tube. Gentle movements
likeTai Chi really do help.
It can be frightening to be in a situation where you are being cared for in your home after years of independence.The chemistry of caregiver and client is very important. If they have something in common to help bond, a therapeutic relationship can develop. But boundaries are important to prevent burnout.
Please make sure you screen carefully with an FBI check, Criminal Background Check, and I recommed Abuse Clearances. Lock up your valuables before beginning this in home care. Unfortunately, you have to be careful about theft.
Hope this helps
Have your mom "shop" for a place with you and have as much reasonable input as possible. Reasonable means: price, proximity and continuity of care. My mom really wanted this one facility but it was unaffordable. The next place she wanted didn't have care beyond assisted living and didn't accept Medicaid. No way! Help your mom find a just-right place that has an active social calendar and a shuttle that takes them on errands.
I use Visiting Angels for companion care for 2 elderly aunts that live far away from me. We worked to find the right person and she is awesome, but this is not everyone's experience. To get the "best" people you really need to want them for at least 30 hrs per week. But, this is a viable option if you think your mom should stay in her home a little longer until you settle on a nice AL for her. Since she is a known fall risk, she will need an agency caregiver who is qualified for fall-risk customers. This means a higher hourly rate.
From my family's own personal experience I will never recommend live-in or private caregivers for the elderly. It is expensive, complicated and leaves open the possibility of financial fraud, theft and even physical or sexual abuse. Plus, it makes one like an employer (taxes, liability, etc). AL is a win-win and if your mom says she's open to it - act today and don't delay AND consider yourself blessed!
You mentioned that your Mom isn't hesitant with the idea of moving to senior living. THAT IS GREAT !! Not only will your Mom have a village to help her out, she will be among people of her own generation. Look at all the new friends she will make :)
As for having someone live in, this tends to be a short term solution as the caregiver will find herself doing the work of 3 full-time shifts, thus will burn out quickly. And you are back to square one.
I would vote for moving Mom since she is agreeable, which tells me your Mom has common sense.
My Dad at one time had around the clock 3 shifts of caregivers which worked out great, but the cost was a huge bite out of Dad's retirement pie. It was costing him $20,000 per month. Yes, per month. Dad found it less costly in comparison to move to senior living where he was paying $5k to $7 per month. He loved the place :)
Free board is not a salary. The work involved in caring competently for an older person with your mother's needs takes time, training and personal aptitude: it's a full time job. What is your mother's free-renter supposed to live on? Paying "extra" - you're looking for this special person who will rejuvenate your mother, so you're even prepared to throw in a little pocket money. Woo-hoo!
I know you won't have looked at things from this perspective, but your attitude is part of the systemic problem that all countries have with elder care. It's tremendously important work. There is a dearth of people able to do it. Demand is rocketing. But for some reason the normal economics of supply and demand seem to be overlooked: it doesn't cross governments' or your family's collective mind that the services you want *rightly* cost a great deal of money. You think it must possible to do it on the cheap. Not only that, you genuinely think the idea is benevolent.
Would you think of asking a lawyer for advice and hoping that you'd get it if you threw in lunch?
Elder care is a skilled vocation. I'm sorry that you're getting our reaction in the neck (you wait 'til others respond! - they won't be nearly as nice as me) but I think we are all getting a bit sick of people thinking that dedicated caregivers can live on love and free rent. There's maybe one family a week just like yours posting on AgingCare.
Do I gather that your mother is highly resistant to the idea of moving home? Who is in charge of her decisions, she or you children?