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I think I would love to spend the time with her enjoying her as family rather than providing services. By the time I'm done with what has to be done, time's up and so the visiting is limited sometimes.
And blessings for alll you are doing in the care of your spouse.
I have been my wife's caregiver for six years. She is stage six Alzheimer's. We have found that exercise is a very important part of living. We got my wife a dog. He is a very strong motivator when it comes to exercise. My wife does not like to walk unless she is told that Coco wants to go for a walk. There is something different about a pet wanting to walk vs. you wanting your mother to walk. A family meeting with all concerned may help. If they can't give their time, have them give money so you get hire in-home care help to takes some of the burden off of you and alleviate caregiver burnout. I don't think people understand that at your job you take care of people then still have to take care of your MIL. I think the assumption is your are trained to take care of people so this should be easy. WRONG!!! It is a very tiresome life to lead. When I get frustrated, I go into another part of the house and scream into a pillow. Sounds silly but try it, it helps.
Take Care,
CareHawaii
Don't you think this is different than someone who is definitely unstable who tries to pass themself off as OK? It's tricky. We use self-control and our manners in respect for others, not like those who are acting normal for self image. I didn't say that very well:/ Know what I mean?
Just figured out that I am guilty of show-timing. I wish my attitude could feel as good as I act like it is.
I have poured myself into her care extensively over the past 3 years and sometimes I just get tired, that's all.
MIL here 3 yrs now, first in our home, then in sr housing around the corner. Her care needs fluctuate but on the whole continue to increase. She finally has someone coming in for showers 2-3 x wk, and homemaking 1x wk. (I did her showers for 3 yrs). She is fully incontinent despite extensive workup and tx.Does not follow through with timed voids. She is also full of arthritis and I know this makes everything difficult, though there are little things like picking up her used depends and getting them in the trash consistently that she doesn't always do. Yesterday I went over as usual for a Saturday, and the bathroom has to be cleaned (#2), trash overflowing, laundry (mostly bed/chair pads due to incontinence) needs doing, she has a grocery list (just did this 2x in past wk), scripts to pick up ( one not done, had to go back, 4 or more trips to Rite Aid this wk), "can you get me an iced coffee while you're out - I made a coffee this morning but I had diarrhea so I didn't get to enjoy it really". She is good about going to the sr. ctr in her building for activities and lunch. Otherwise spends a lot of time sitting and eating snacks, which is surely contributing to her significant wt gain. She is a very nice lady and appreciative, but the constant "little things" end up being frustrating to me. I have a neighbor who is going to be 90 and who also has a lot of pain from arthritis yet keeps her home up with a little help and is motivated to stay as active as possible. The contrast is striking. I know better than to judge, just seems frustrating to see MIL sitting and snacking yet too unmotivated to walk 50 ft to get her mail from the box or pick up the used depends from the floor. She does not present as depressed, has been on lithium for years for bipolar and her levels were just checked. She just does not have the drive to keep things up. I am keenly aware that her care needs are really minimal compared to many as I work in home care. I just get weary of it at times. My husband (her son) helps out a little. Her daughter is 2 hours away and calls her about once a week; her son is on the other coast and calls once a week. Neither ever calls to ask how the caregiver is doing or to get cg perspective on MIL's state of being. Anyway, I feel like I need an attitude adjustment to snap out of my feeling used. Grrr. I also have 2 teenagers (great kids) and a 30 hrs/wk job in home care physical therapy. Caregived- out!