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Your husband decided to move and you took a role of caregiver, cook etc.
But you are not well.
It is up to your husband to find solution for his mother’s care, employ somebody else and he should take care of you.
You can't handle this all by yourselves. Call on the troops by that I mean have the primary care doc write orders for homecare and/or daily respite even it's just for one morning per week.
Streamline everything and bring in whatever services you can. Just do it don't ask their permission and tell them (Mom) you cannot continue doing this. If I understand it correctly you pay them rent (or they wanted you to pay board) but you provide all the labor for their care.
You have to get something in writing, not word of mouth. You have to secure your spot. I would contact an Elder Attorney for a free consult, a hospital social worker, Mom's primary doctor and look around for a day respite with transportation that offers physical therapy, hot meals, etc. Start out small just (4) hours per week.
Find out about Mom's healthcare and any services--meals, cleaning lady and ask your Church to visit on a Sunday. You want to be left standing when everything is said and done and you also want to make sure your loved one's are in the best possible position--health wise, safety and all of you financially.
Sometimes you drop everything and run and then when you get there you say how I am going to handle all of this. It may start out ok but then the longer it continues and things are added to the equation other decisions for the "greater good" need to be made.
I will pray for you and I hope this helps all of you. You sound like a wonderful responsible couple and that's why the others in the family are kind of sitting back thinking you will know what to do. You need to draw a line in the sand and fast...
Let her figure it out for herself, you are not well and need to take care of yourself!