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Come and sit under the evil tree with me, there's room.
You will not be dealing with a rational person due to her illness.
Take control of your life and hers, she needs to appreciate you have a life too.
I think blowing your top in a situation of great stress is natural. We had the exactly the same thing with Mum, she refused to leave her home, and a nephew saw a
great advantage in that....it has left a hell of an emotional and financial mess.
All areas are different not all hospice groups are the same, but I found when my dad was on hospice care that the agency did have some funds (120 hours worth) that I could use for in home care. Check also with your local area on aging and be sure that you speak to the person who is in charge of the care givers program. I was able to get some help from them on in home care due to the fact that I was retired and didn't have an income. That may not be the case for you, but check it out anyway. Their goal is to support keeping the elderly at home.
Last of all, you are not evil. Nor is your mom's devoted dog. It's a stressful and heartbreaking situation and it takes a toll on everyone (two or four legged) that loves your mom. Buy some slippers, so your feet don't get wet or worse. Keep breathing and get some in care help.
You are doing a devoted and loving effort to care for your mom.
Blessings to you. Cattails
All the very best to you - enjoy the break! :)
Thanks again to everyone!
I know of a relative that was ambular at one time and he went to something like
"day school" where they kept them busy doing things and intereactiving with others their age. At an appointed time, they would be brought home. Just a thought. Praying for you.
Is there any way you can bring in help for 3 hours a day, in the afternoon?
You are doing great. Good daughter
It's hard, I know seeing your mom decline when you love her so much. Hugs