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GOD BLESS YOU, my dear. May the GOOD LORD give you the strength you need to do what is necessary and what is best for YOUR family, outside of mom.
It would probably be a great situation for her to be with people of her own age, and nurses to watch over her carefully. Bet she'll have teeth after 30 days of being in a facility!!!!
Other folks can make them do what we cannot. Alas, we are the only ones there knowing how bad it really is. Do you have siblings? If so, perhaps you should call on them for assistance since you are moving out of state.
Good Luck.
The scratch-offs sound like a real problem, esp the fact she insists you drive her. My own mother is almost as bad, but in her case it's just antiques, knick-knacks, pretty little things you see in the gift shops. Half the time she'll insist "Oh this will make a lovely gift for someone!" but more often she just likes physically having this or this nice object. It drives me nuts, because Mother doesn't like going out if she can't shop, and she never has any money after the first week, so we never go anywhere. (God forbid I go off alone.) The only thing about scratches is that sometimes there is a payoff, my house is full of pretty but useless things that just SIT there.
Is there any way she'd accept a set amount, say, 20 a week, or getting them on Tues/Fri? Is there a Gambler's Anonymous in your area? It might help you even if your mother doesn't listen.
I don't blame you for wanting to not take your mother with you, I put off a move because I'd have to plan it around Mother's immobility, dogs, and too much furniture.
Depending upon your mothers medical condition(s), she may qualify for a nursing home or something of that nature.
I understand, teeth and all! It's truly sad when they won't save enough out of their checks to get their teeth fixed, but you must understand that your mother does has an illness and by buying the scratch offs for her, you are honestly enabling her behavior. She needs help and you need a break!
Prayers and hugs,
Suzanne